#Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We aren’t all the same. Wouldn’t the world be a boring place if that was the case. Everyone has a viewpoint. Everyone has their own opinion.

However, I am a firm believer in “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”. I think it’s really important to spread happiness, build confidence and support each other. Now my big cheesey smile isn’t like this everyday, sometimes I’m worn out and sometimes I’m feeling sad. But I’ve learnt how to offload, unwind and bring that smile back. It’s so important to be able to hit that reset button once in a while.

So, this week, try and do one of these things:
🤍 Make someone laugh, a big belly laugh
🤍 Tell someone they look amazing
🤍 Tell someone you love you are grateful for them

See how it makes you feel. To make someone else’s day. It’s euphoric. I will never forget the moment one of the Mums from the school run told me I completely picked them up out of a dark spot - just by telling them they looked amazing today as I walked past.

Take the time to appreciate. Honestly it’s THE best hobby!

On a little diverted note; I’m appreciating this coat and boots right now. So warm and comfy. Check out the details on my blog >>> #linkinbio

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#ad Coat & Boots from @idealworld.tv and they are @joebrowns 🙌🏻

#Beauty is in the eye...

This might seem a little random after the sentiments in my last post. But bear with me... cleaning & #diy can help me with my mental health.

I’m not sure why but when I’m anxious, need to think or cross I clean. Like the deep clean stuff, it’s almost as if I get adrenaline from somewhere to give me the strength to scrub things that I wouldn’t normally. Or tackle something I wouldn’t normally.

On Thursday, whilst anxiously waiting to find out what was wrong with my grandma, I was shaving millimetres off Isla’s bedroom door. It was hard work but I didn’t want to just sit about.

Today I’ve painted the radiator and woodwork in our dining room with Frenchic. I now have a white and bright radiator and grey door. It looks so much better. Again, it’s something I can do whilst being lost in my thoughts.

Does anyone else do this?

Whilst promoting cleaning and mindfulness, check out my blog for a competition to win some goodies from @astonishcleaners #astonishingresults 
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This might seem a little...

I’m sure I don’t need to tell you what beauty shared this on her instagram before Christmas:  @carolineflack you’ve broken my heart.

She was funny. Caring. Kind. Absolutely beautiful and that smile lit up the world. Not perfect. But who is? No one.

I can’t comprehend how someone of such radiance and sparkle can end their life. But I only assume her mental health was suffering. She felt so trapped that was her only way out. A way of ending the pain that nobody could see.

Mental health is invisible; yet mental health is all consuming. Mental health is complicated; yet mental health can be helped with a simple cup of tea and chat.

Smile on the inside and on the out.

Make time for yourself.

Love yourself.

Make time for others.

Be kind.

Always. 
In a world where you can be anything, be kind  #bekind #ripcarolineflack

I’m sure I don’t need...

This is sheer appreciation. This man. My lobster 🦞. Who made me the scrummiest meal last night & dreamy Vegan brownies. Showered me with thoughtful gifts & my cute note (in my stories) I recieved in my lunch bag.

However, I was a complete emotional wreck yesterday as my Grandma was taken into hospital. She was distressed, confused and sounding a little slow. It was scary.

So the Valentine’s Day love went all to Grandma from my family; wishing & hoping they find out what’s wrong.

We’re currently waiting to find out if her BP has reduced. It was sky high. Hoping she’s better & I can bring her home today.

This photo was from last Summer when we went to @carluccios in Cambridge. I love it. Happy memories. I’m lucky to have these. Noahs a people watcher, he was distracted with the crowd. Incidentally Carluccio’s have the offer on again: kids eat for a £1... #appreciation #family #love #mummyphotoaday

This is sheer appreciation. This...

Happy Valentine’s Day 🤍

A lot to be thankful for today. Love is a big word. I love these two quotes and perfect for today.

Yes it’s about celebrating your life with your lobster 🦞(mine is rather amazing) but it’s also about family.

Family is not just an important thing. It’s everything. So true.

I don’t know where I’d be without my lobster and my family... I hung these beauts in our bathroom and I love them. They make me smile everytime I clean my teeth! Which helps 😂

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#ad Prints are from @coulsonmacleod - so beautiful

Happy Valentine’s Day 🤍 A...

I love this new story corner I’ve created for Isla, with a little help from @vertbaudetuk. It is a gorgeous space and I couldn’t wait for her to get home and see it. She was so happy!

I love the large floor cushion, I want an entire room kitted out with them so I can just chill in the middle. It would be so cosy. Or even just #half a room! 🤍

Isla loves reading and so I thought this little corner would be perfect for her. She loves it.

I started with the floor cushion, I hung the coat rack for her monkeys and dressing gown and then I hung the shelves. They are so cute. I finished it all off with the mirror. I love all the colours and shapes. It really finishes off her room.

Who else wants the futon cushion? 🙋🏼‍♀️ #mummyphotoaday #ad

I love this new story...

I love trying new makeup, especially the vegan variety! I’ve recently discovered the fab range from @ex1cosmetics - you can grab them at your local @superdrug. So easy to find when you run out.

I’ve done a bit of a makeup tutorial on the blog using the EX1 Cosmetic products. Please forgive me, my skin is awful at the moment. Since I’ve been exercising more my skin has been really spotty. The spots that hide under the skin too!

If you swipe left then you’ll see the fab products I used. Then check out my stories for the swipe up link to my blog post.

I’m no make up artist haha. I prefer natural tones, that give my face #warmth. These products are perfect for that, especially the pink blusher! I wanted to show you what the products do and how they can be used together. Perfect makeup for your Valentine’s Day date!

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I love trying new makeup,...

A place to relax. A place to hide. A place to #doodle. A place to confide.

This place is my haven. It’s my safe space to relax and unwind. It’s absurd that at 37 years old, I just can’t wait to get into bed. When hubby goes climbing on a Monday evening; I’m in bed at 8pm! Is that sad?

Because it makes me happy, the bed is super comfortable and it is the only room in the house that the kids do not destroy, it’s nice to cling on to it. Keep it that haven.

If I need 5 mins to compose myself, I’ll hide in here. The kids drive me up the wall sometimes and hiding in here can calm me down. A technique I’ve developed over the years so the kids do not see Mumma lose it!

Anyone else love their bed? Or bedroom as a whole? I’m sure I’m not the only one haha #mummyphotoaday

A place to relax. A...

Why is the news always about dying Mummy? 

You may have seen on my social media accounts this morning, this is one of the many questions that my little Noah asked me when we turned on the news. The Manchester arena explosion at an Ariana Grande concert. Men, women and children hurt or worse. Not only did Daddy and I react, like every other family I suspect, in shock. So did Noah. 

I forget that he’s 6. He’s no longer a baby. He has emotions and feelings of his own and he’s trying to make sense of them. I also forget how simple things are for the little ones. Right is right and wrong is wrong. There isn’t a nearly right and a nearly wrong. 

Noah asked me all sorts of questions, ranging from questions about what a bomb is and what caused an explosion. He wanted to know why the man killed himself too? What that meant for him? Will he go to heaven? When we heard that an 8 year old was among the dead, he went very quiet for a long time. Then he said “8? As in not much older than me?”. You could hear the disbelief in his voice. The confusion. “Why? Mummy, why?”. 

I decided to take the approach that the truth was best. He is clever and he is empathetic (like his Mummy) so I knew that fobbing him off wouldn’t help him in the long run. Later on in the day I read the BBC News article on how to talk to children about terrorist attacks and thankfully the advice is to tell them the truth. Everything that is described in that article, I did. So I felt assured that I did Noah justice. He asked me questions, I answered them. Honestly, but basically. It only feels like weeks ago that I was in a similar position with Noah helping him understand why the London Bridge attack happened. 

 

Heartbreaking conversations with this little 6 year old this morning. A 6 year old who enjoys watching the news, but not it’s contents. Asking me why the news is always about death? Asking me what a bomb is? Asking me if the bomber will go to heaven? Feeling sad because children only a couple of years older than him have died in the explosion. “Why would that naughty man do that Mummy?” I answered him all honestly. There’s no point in fluffing it up around the edges anymore. Not when there is so much ugliness in this world. I just hope that this little man and his generation grow up and rise above it… lead in a world where terrorism is a thing of the past! #AMummyCanWish #HopefulMother #sad #manchesterarena #family #development #growing #development #questions #answers #son #love #heartbroken

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It does make me worry about what world we will leave behind to the next generation. I cannot imagine being 70 or so and picturing what Noah and Isla look like. What they have done with their lives and what the world around them is like. I hope, I really hope, that terrorism will be a thing of the past. That their generation will rise above it and these cruel people will know that it doesn’t get them anywhere. 

Isla didn’t seem to acknowledge it too much. She watched the same news clip that the rest of us watched. She has only just turned 5 after all, so I do not expect too much. But she did say “is this why we have to stay with you Mummy and not run off?”. It made my stomach churn. Because I realised that even if I try to protect my little ones by keeping them close to me… that would be no match against an explosive device.

But if I worry about that. If I let that stop me. If I dwell on what if’s and might be’s. Well, fear would have won. I am not going to let that happen. 

Our prayers and thoughts go out to those effected by the Manchester Arena explosion. Whether you have been directly effected or like us, from a distance. I am sure there are many families across England tonight giving their kiddies an extra hug before bedtime. 

If you have any thoughts or comments on this topic, I would love to hear them… 

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