We had a lovely day today. No plans whatsoever when we woke up. Which felt marvellous. I stayed in my PJs until 11am 😱. Sunday is the only day that’s possible, so I like to make the most of it. Not sure why, but it feels like you’re winning when you have extra hours in bed clothes!

We then arranged an impromptu dog walk with Nanny & Grandad. Which was lovely as the kiddies have missed them. The weeks are flying by at the moment and we’ve not seen them for 5 of them! It’s terrible as the kids saw them twice a week, every week up until a year ago. It must be hard for them all not having that regular routine.

Isla often cries her heart out for Nanny & Grandad. On Thursday evening, after a long day she was so emotional and cried for them. It breaks my heart, as at 8pm I can’t really do anything about it.

When I was growing up I stayed at my grandmas once a week. It was slightly different as I lived in the same town, which helped with school and my normal routine. But I had that closeness with my grandparents that never goes away. It’s my safe place.

I really want the same for my kiddies too! I guess it was a kick up the bum to make sure I plan that time in and not let the weeks get on top of me!

We had a nice walk in the mud. Everything was thick and gooey. The kids, of course, loved it. I asked them not to get muddy: do you think they listened? Nope! Covered!!
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Hope everyone has had a lovely Sunday 🤩
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I’m off to watch @callthemidwife.official finale now 😫😭 I hate it when it gets to the final episode. 
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We had a lovely day...

It’s been a day of fun and #games today. Noah had a football match this morning, Daddy said it was a good game and very close. Whilst Noah was slide tackling everyone, Isla and I took some soups to Grandmas. Hubby made some carrot and coriander soups for her this week as fresh ingredient soup is just the best!

Isla then went climbing with Daddy. They love going to Big Rock in MK. Isla is so brave. She climbs right up to the top of the really tall walls. It amazes me.

We then snuggled to watch the final Harry Potter. We’ve now watched them all. We have waited 5 years for this moment and we all loved it. I got a little confused with Snape’s memories but I think I’m back on track. I must finish the books now 🤣

Has anyone else had a busy Saturday? #mummyphotoaday

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When it comes to a #horizon, I couldn’t not share this. Back from our trip to the Peak District. It was meant to be Summer. It felt like this week: windy, raining and unpredictable.

The views went on for miles at the top of his peak; Mam Tor wedged in between Castleton and Edale.

It was a beautiful area, picturesque and a treat for your eyes. I love places like that. It’s a shame we didn’t get to stop & enjoy the local beer gardens and cafes due to the weather.

We go on lots of adventures throughout the year: weekend trips camping, staycations and holidays abroad. Our next adventure is pretty epic too and every time I think about it I get butterflies! 🥰

We are off to Dubai soon! 😱😱😱 it must be real I’ve said it out loud. I’m so excited I might explode and I’m pretty sure the views will be nothing like this Peak District. Because the views we will have will be extraordinary. It’s our biggest adventure yet as a family. Biggest as in flight time, cost, special and unplanned. We’ve booked our flights and we’re super lucky to be staying with friends. Other than that we have no idea! What are we going to do in Dubai? Anyone been? Any ideas?

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Ah it’s #loveyourpetday - what a great way to see each others furbabies. Well these are mine:

Photo 1 = Rambo the Jack Russell & Snoopy the Cockerspaniel. As many of you know, Snoopy is blind and partially deaf which is challenging. However, he is such a happy pooch and loves a snuggle. I think Rambo has lost a little hearing too as he’s getting old. He will be 13 on April 3rd! It’s gone by so quickly.

Photo 2 = Rocky. He’s my Tom cat fluffbag and I like to call him Rockstar! He was my engagement present from Hubby. He’s the best cat. He snuggles with me every night, under the covers, he’s very set in a routine.

It’s funny how furbabies get their own little #pattern to make it through the day. All the pets sit by the bed at night for a treat. And I think Rambo is very cat like and Rocky is very dog like too. They definitely have those characteristics.

Rambo is 12, Rocky is 11 and Snoopy is 10. Noah is 9... then we broke the pattern as Isla is 7 🤣 (it wasn’t intentional). #mummyphotoaday #dogsofinstagram #catsofinstagram

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Sometimes I like to have fun with images. I don’t do it very often but it is amazing what you can do with a photo using filters.

The first image is the edited version, I’ve added a #bokeh filter on it. I’ve used @pixlr for this. It adds an orangey colouring to the photo and enhances the sun rays.

The original, swipe left, is still good and has its own bokeh and sun rays shining on it. But is less orangey and doesn’t seem as bright. It’s still a good photo though.

I took this with my iPhone. Sometimes when I need a quiet moment, one where I can play with the filters and change the feel of a photo it helps me to unwind. Gives my brain 5 minutes to regain itself and then I’m ready to crack on with whatever it was!

Which one do you prefer? Just out of curiosity - there’s no right or wrong answer! 🤣

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I had a busy Sunday painting the dining room with @frenchicpaint. I think it’s fair to say I’m obsessed. I painted the radiator and skirting boards with Dazzle Me. It’s super bright white. I painted the door with City Slicker. It looks so much better than the dark wood it was before.

If you swipe left you can see the before photos. The radiator was a beige colour before. It’s amazing how much brighter the room looks, it’s easy to #transform a room with an hour or 2 of painting.

I styled up the dining room with this beautiful bouquet of Spring flowers (a very kind gift from a friend) and these items from @pricescandlesuk. They eliminate pet odours which is great as sometimes I worry my house smells “dog”. After an impromptu afternoon off work, looking after Isla who hurt her neck at dance club, I cleaned and cleaned. The house smells nice and clean now. The household candle and reed diffuser have added a nice citrus and thyme scent to the room.

It’s amazing what you can do to change the feel of a room with simple steps!

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I had a busy Sunday...

#Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We aren’t all the same. Wouldn’t the world be a boring place if that was the case. Everyone has a viewpoint. Everyone has their own opinion.

However, I am a firm believer in “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”. I think it’s really important to spread happiness, build confidence and support each other. Now my big cheesey smile isn’t like this everyday, sometimes I’m worn out and sometimes I’m feeling sad. But I’ve learnt how to offload, unwind and bring that smile back. It’s so important to be able to hit that reset button once in a while.

So, this week, try and do one of these things:
🤍 Make someone laugh, a big belly laugh
🤍 Tell someone they look amazing
🤍 Tell someone you love you are grateful for them

See how it makes you feel. To make someone else’s day. It’s euphoric. I will never forget the moment one of the Mums from the school run told me I completely picked them up out of a dark spot - just by telling them they looked amazing today as I walked past.

Take the time to appreciate. Honestly it’s THE best hobby!

On a little diverted note; I’m appreciating this coat and boots right now. So warm and comfy. Check out the details on my blog >>> #linkinbio

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#Beauty is in the eye...

This might seem a little random after the sentiments in my last post. But bear with me... cleaning & #diy can help me with my mental health.

I’m not sure why but when I’m anxious, need to think or cross I clean. Like the deep clean stuff, it’s almost as if I get adrenaline from somewhere to give me the strength to scrub things that I wouldn’t normally. Or tackle something I wouldn’t normally.

On Thursday, whilst anxiously waiting to find out what was wrong with my grandma, I was shaving millimetres off Isla’s bedroom door. It was hard work but I didn’t want to just sit about.

Today I’ve painted the radiator and woodwork in our dining room with Frenchic. I now have a white and bright radiator and grey door. It looks so much better. Again, it’s something I can do whilst being lost in my thoughts.

Does anyone else do this?

Whilst promoting cleaning and mindfulness, check out my blog for a competition to win some goodies from @astonishcleaners #astonishingresults 
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The Trolls that hate Chores!

Sounds like a children’s storybook title. But it’s not. I guess it was inevitable that MummyConstant would be trolled at some point, but I didn’t ever think it would be from a simple comment about chores and children. You may have seen my recent Instagram post asking for advice on what chores the children do around the house, well it caused a bit of an uproar!

It’s horrible when someone throws mud at you, however innocently or even if by passing comment – you cannot help but want to defend yourself. And, in my defence, I can honestly say that I never intended the comment to insinuate I want my children to do all of the housework! I was merely thinking about little tasks that kiddies do around the house – like making their bed. That’s not totally unreasonable, is it?

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Today marks the first day back to “normal”, our school term #routine is on. The kiddies have a usual weekly pattern of school and after school clubs mixed with cubs and football! It’s all go go go… We’re hoping to get them into extra curriculum activities next week when they start at school. Lots of fun things for the kiddies to get involved in. We’ve also created a rota at home, no devices before school. We got the kids books and maths / English books to complete in the mornings. Then after school they can chill. I’m thinking I need to start giving them some sort of chores now to earn things, the kiddies are showing an interest in the daily jobs around the house – what age did you give your kids responsibilities! #mummyphotoaday #paperchaseit

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Well, according to a few accounts on Instagram it is unreasonable! I came away from that situation with 2 things whirling around in my mind; why can’t children help around the house (I did when I was younger) and how did my words get twisted so much. The comments suggested that parents who get their kids to do chores are lazy parents. What? That it is child exploitation to get the kids to help. It’s craziness. I am slightly dumbfounded.

Now don’t get me wrong, I do think child abuse and exploitation is serious and that children should be children. Not made to work for money (as in a full time employment as they should be having an education) or not given support growing up – but all I was referring to is making their beds. Or tidying up their plates after mealtimes.

It made me feel very defensive and based on the comments across Instagram and Facebook, it made my followers defensive (and cross) too.

I get social media is all about opinion and I have mine, you have yours and they have theirs. Iam also getting the impression there are people out there who like to force their opinions on others – for whatever reason. My kids have enjoyed helping from an early age: cooking, washing machine bits and bobs but always ad hoc. Never has it become a routine.

Every parent should have the right to choose what they want their kids to do, be responsible for and involved in. And, every parent has a duty of care to look after their children.

So, back to the original question (but written differently): I am thinking my children are of an appropriate age to help with tasks around the house. Like making their beds and tidying up their dirty plates. What do your children do around the house and what ages are they? Oh and do they earn pocket money this way?

And Mr Troll – NO I am not talking about getting my child to do all of the housework whilst I sit back and watch!

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2 Comments
  • Gemma Clark
    February 21, 2020

    Lol had a little giggle at that. Wow that’s just crazy! I too did chores when I was younger and had to look after my younger sister a lot when I was old enough. I didn’t mind the chores at all, it sets you up in later life. I did however resent babysitting my sister all the time while my friends were out having fun so I always said I’d never do that to mine. My teenage daughter is a hard one to get motivated to anything for me around the house and that’s not for the want of trying lol. My youngest daughter who is 9 absolutely loves helping me clean. She will dust, hoover up, wash pots and helps me with preparing food. If you don’t get your kids to do these things what basic skills are they going to have when they set up home.

  • justine meyer
    February 21, 2020

    I did chores when I was younger but it was more as a punishement. Mine do chores now and again I never expect them to do them but it’s a bonus when they do, my sister has hers kids like little slaves which I don’t agree with. I am sure when they leave home they will either sink or swim with chores!

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