This is for yesterday’s prompt, I left my square black yesterday and so this is my Day 2 of the June Photo Challenge.

These guys always make me #smile. They have the ability to make me feel so very angry and then laugh only 5 minutes later. I’m glad they don’t hold a grudge or stay angry for too long.

I remember this moment well, they were giggling about the dogs. The dogs wandered around them chewing on the grass and Snoopy (our blind dog) nearly head butted Isla.

I love the bond they have developed over the past few months, with each other and the pets too. I’m not saying they love all day long (they bicker) but it’s not as much as they used to and it’s definitely determined by the amount of sleep they get.

Anyone else struggling to get their kids asleep but 10pm? I think Noah came down, in protest, 8 times last night to say he couldn’t sleep.

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This is for yesterday’s prompt,...

#blackouttuesday✊🏼✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿 #blackouttuesday

#blackouttuesday✊🏼✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿 #blackouttuesday

🌾 I adore this photo! Not sure what it is exactly: the colours, the wonky lines, the sun setting to the right or the children’s freedom. Or, all of it put together.

This was an ordinary moment captured on our dog walk, Sunday evening. It’s little moments like this, the accidental captures, that I love the most.

I had no idea at the time of taking it that I’d love it as much as I do. I can hear the #kiddies giggling and it makes me want to smile.

Well, it’s a late post. But I didn’t finish work until 10:30pm ish & I’ve been winding down.

I hope everyone had a lovely day.

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🌾 I adore this photo!...

Happy June everyone and here are the photo prompts for #mummyphotoaday, June photo challenge.

I’ve included lots of generic words as during lockdown there is quite a variation of photos. I love seeing how each person takes on the photo prompts, some absolutely stunning photos.

Don’t forget to use the hashtag #mummyphotoaday so I can share the photos throughout the month, but so others can find you and like or comment. It really is such a lovely community.

So, what is everyone doing for June?

Happy June everyone and here...

My favourite pics from May #mummyphotoaday, the fun photo a day photo challenge. Thank you to everyone who has taken part, so many amazing photos to choose from.

The photo is tagged, but left to right:
📷 @mummuddlingthrough
📷 @otisandus.blog
📷 @socalshopgirl384
📷 @van_life_family_
📷 @ceeleah_and_the_small_humans
📷 @norfolk_kinsfolk
📷 @beautifully_defected
📷 @newmummyblog
📷 @typicalmummy

I’ve really loved seeing photos from everyone that joined in: @sahrazade @shareyourplaywithme @beatrix.hendrix.and.me @confessionsofacrummymummy @adventuresstartathome @anywaytostayathome @chaos_at_leitrim @_lisaslife_ @happinessisasunbeam @themummyeditorial

All you have to do to join in with this photo challenge is use the hashtag #mummyphotoaday. Take the keyword from the photo prompts and use that in your caption. We’ve got a lovely community that enjoy seeing each others posts.

Thank you to everyone who joined in. Looking forward to June!

My favourite pics from May...

We went out with a bang for May! We had a day of socially distancing with #family.

Today is Nanny’s birthday, so we watched her open her presents on the driveway, with a good few metres distance. It was horrible not to be able to celebrate the day with her as we always do. We know we will soon and hopefully they can come and spend time in the garden with us soon, due to the new rules.

The kiddies get super sad when we leave families. It’s not nice but I think they understand why we can’t see them properly. Albeit they do not like it!

To cheer us up we played diggers in the fields surrounding my Mums new barn renovation project. No worries about socially distancing over there it is literally fields and fields. The kids loved zooming up and down on the dumper. I think it’s called.

Then we knocked on Great Grandma’s door to blow her a kiss and let her see the kiddies for a few minutes. It’s just so hard.

But, it was so lovely to see family today. Even if from afar and for a short time. We haven’t seen them in the flesh for around a month and it felt so nice.

Here’s to June and another month of lockdown. We’ve still got this!

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We went out with a...

Yeah for the #weekend!! It seems to be the only time where tensions aren’t high and there is a calm amongst us.

We have no grand plans, obviously, but we do tend to get the dogs walked first thing (as it’s too hot later on) and then we do some gardening.

Yesterday I spent an hour pulling all the weeds and long grasses from the front garden. It looks so much neater now but I still have a lot of work to do.

I love this photo of us of all, we do not have many as we never sit still long enough 🤪 This is our family lockdown portrait though and it’s a nice memory: sunny days, rainbows and quality time together at home.

Do you have any special memories throughout this lockdown?

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Yeah for the #weekend!! It...

What a great #friyay it’s been! We spent the morning “washing” the food shopping, then went for a nice big walk around Godmanchester meadows. It was a beautiful walk and nice as there was a breeze which cooled us down.

Yes, I did say wash the shopping. Is anyone else doing this? I basically Zoflora all of the food shopping as I unpack it. The actual shopping process takes a lot longer and now I’ve added an extra 30 mins with the clean. We just want to be sure it’s not harbouring anything. Peace of mind if nothing else.

Then this afternoon we let the kids have movie time. They’ve been getting too hot in the garden. It is super hot in the garden, it seems to be a little sun trap. Which I’m not complaining about.

Daddy then took the kiddies to the park to play croquet and I had a snooze in the sun.

All in all it’s been a beautiful day and chilled. Probably one of my favourite Fridays.

What did you get up to?

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What a great #friyay it’s...

Helping your toddler to bond with a new sibling

The arrival of a new baby, a brand-new member of your family, is both exciting and daunting at the same time. When you first discovered that you were expecting another baby, you probably focused on the many benefits that having a new sibling would bring to your toddler. However, the reality of introducing a new baby to your home is often fraught with sibling rivalry and anxiety. Noah slapped Isla on the head the first time he met her! 

Helping siblings to get along as they grow up is one of the toughest challenges that any parent can face. Here are our top tips for helping your toddler to bond with a new baby:

Let Your Toddler Be Involved

One of the first things to do when you bring a new baby home is to enlist your older child as your special, grown-up helper. Encouraging the older child to nurture their new sibling will help to foster a significant emotional bond. Some good examples of how you can do this in a way that is safe and non-intrusive for both children is to ask the older child to read or tell their younger sibling a bedtime story, or to rub their back or sing them a lullaby when they take their afternoon nap.

By taking a step back and letting your children nurture and care for each other, rather than rely on you to take care of all their emotional needs, they are more likely to form a lasting emotional bond with each other. Toddlers are surprisingly good at soothing crying babies, whilst your baby is likely to be fascinated by the noises and movements of their older brother or sister.

Pick Matching Outfits

Many toddlers are particularly fashion conscious and picky about the clothes that they will or won’t wear. For the fashion-savvy toddler, why not pick out some matching outfits that they can wear to coordinate with their new baby sibling?

Matching t shirts, bandana bibs and pyjamas are all great choices and will help to foster a bond between the two children by marking them out as being part of the same gang or team. In much the same way that older children bond by wearing the same school uniforms or sports kits, allowing your child to wear matching outfits is a great way for them to bond visually, and identify the significance that they have to each other. If your toddler shows any signs of regression as a result of the arrival of their new sibling, they will also enjoy dressing like a baby, and the feeling that they are being treated the same as the new arrival.

Nurture Each Child’s Individuality

Whilst encouraging your children to think of each other as a little club or team is important, it is also important to nurture each child’s individuality in order to enrich their bond and ensure they don’t resent the presence of their sibling. One of the best ways to nurture your child and show them you appreciate their individuality is to praise them individually. For example, you might say “William, you have done a great job at eating your toast and Amy, you have made me proud by drinking so much milk” rather than simply saying “You have both done a great job at eating your breakfast”.

When issuing compliments to you children in this way, it is essential not to compare you children to each other. This will only breed resentment that could create problems in the future. You might well think comments such as “Your table manners are so much better than your brother’s” but you should never express them aloud.

You should give you children the space they need to explore the different roles that they can have in the world, without pigeon holing them into categories in order to differentiate themselves from their sibling. By embracing their individuality and avoiding any comparisons, they will have the emotional security the need to express who they feel they really are.

Have Special Time with Your Toddler

Having a new born can be physically and emotionally draining: babies leave you feeling exhausted and demand all of your attention. In this landscape, it is easy for your comparatively easier and less demanding toddler to be left out, and subsequently feel they have been replaced in your affections by a new baby.

Where you can, try to spend time alone with your toddler and give them your undivided attention. Enlist the support of your partner or a willing grandparent to look after the baby, so that you can relax knowing that they are in safe hands. What you do with your toddler is less important than the act of spending one to one time with them: a trip to the park, feeding the ducks, or even a morning out to the local swimming pool or cinema are all great ways to show your toddler that they remain incredibly important to you, and that the arrival of the new baby won’t change the bond that they share with you.

Listen to Your Toddlers Concerns

It is very normal and very common for your toddler to be concerned about the arrival of their new sibling: their issues are likely to range from big concerns, such as whether mummy and daddy will still love them, to comparatively smaller ones, such as whether they will have to share their bedroom or their toys. However silly their worries may seem, giving them a safe forum where you will listen to their concerns and take them seriously is a great way to reduce sibling rivalry and simultaneously work towards new developmental milestones.

Encourage your child to identify their feelings and allow them to take the lead as you work together to find solutions to their problems. Helping your older child to realise that a new baby is not going to negatively impact on their lives will make them more open to forming a bond with their new sibling.

Alternate Your Priorities

When you have a crying baby demanding your attention, it can be tempting to let their needs take priority over the needs of your older child. This is likely to breed resentment in your older child and prevent them from forming a meaningful bond with their new sibling. Of course, that doesn’t mean you should leave a baby to cry for significant periods of time, but occasionally leaving the baby for a minute or two and vocalising this (“just a minute baby, I’m getting your big brother a snack” or “I’ll pick you up when I’ve tied your older sister’s shoelaces”) shows your toddler in a very tangible way that their wants and needs are still important to you.

No one likes to hear a crying baby but remember that it won’t hurt your baby to wait for a minute or two. Making this sacrifice will have significant benefits for your toddler.

Embrace Baby Play

The arrival of a new sibling often causes toddlers to regress and wish that they could be a baby again. Depending on the age of your older child, this could manifest itself in the form of sleep regression or you may find that your potty training progress takes a step back. This isn’t something to worry about. If your child wants to play at being a baby then let them: this will help them to bond with the new baby and won’t negatively impact on their own development.

A healthy way to encourage this is with a new toy dolls and various doll equipment: your toddler may enjoy copying your behaviour by feeding their baby or changing its nappy. Offer plenty of positive praise when they treat their doll gentle, as this is a great and risk-free way for them to learn how you expect them to treat the baby.

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