This afternoons activity with Daddy looked like lots of fun: they gathered sticks and the kiddies built their own pile of firewood for a camp fire. They then sat around the fire pit to test whose camp fire would flame up the best!

Isla created a very structured camp fire, logical and a pattern to where she placed her sticks. Noahs looked more sporadic but covered a wider area.

Neither camp fires took fire, it was quite windy. So the kiddies enjoyed a hot chocolate and marshmallow around their piles of sticks.

They had fun though and that’s the main thing. I’m loving all of these practical tasks they’re doing with Daddy.

I’ve been waiting, all day, for someone to tell me it’s all a dream and we are still going to Dubai. But, unfortunately, no one jumped out screaming April #fool and alas, we are still at home. I’m gutted.

Lots to look forward to though and right now it’s about focussing on our main objective: stay at home at all times, unless to buy essential food & walk the dogs! I have actually loved being at home everyday. It’s my favourite place.

#mummyphotoaday

This afternoons activity with Daddy...

“We are very excited to try out this new food from Forthglade, it smells woofing delicious” 🐾 Straight from the doggies mouth!

I am very excited to announce that I am a new ambassador for @forthglade. What does that mean? Well, I get to try out the products and tell you all how good they are and get special offers and discounts for my followers too!

It’s such a strange time with lockdown, however finding out about Forthglade couldn’t have come at a better time. When I went to get our usual dog foods in the supermarket it had all sold out. So, resorting to online orders seemed a very natural thing to do to ensure our furbabies are fed.

This food is a minimum of 75% meat or fish and is free from junk. With Snoopy, he has a tummy condition which means we have to be careful what he eats, it’s perfect. We will keep you posted on what they thought! 🐾 #gifted

“We are very excited to...

🌼 April is here and along with it comes another set of photo keywords for #MummyPhotoADay photo challenge.

We should have been flying to Dubai today, so my insta squares would have been very different to what they now will be. I’m expecting to see lots of Spring colours and stay at home families instead this month.

Don’t forget to use the hashtag #mummyphotoaday so I can comment and share my favourites throughout the month.

Does anyone have any creative stay at home plans for April?

🌼 April is here and...

My favourite pics from March #MummyPhotoADay - a massive thank you to everyone that took part. We have had a lot of new members this month and it’s been really hard picking my favourite 9! There are now over 4,000 photos to choose from.

All photos are tagged, but from left right:
📷 @cultivatingdelight
📷 @newmummyblog
📷 @confessionsofacrummymummy
📷 @houseofbaughs
📷 @sahrazade
📷 @otisandus.blog
📷 @_lisaslife_
📷 @socalshopgirl384
📷 @descendants_of_war

I’ve really loved seeing photos from @anywaytostayathome, @the_mummy_editorial, @freyalexandra, @becsbrewtifullife & @canonjacq.

All you have to do to join in is add #mummyphotoaday to your caption and the keyword of the day... I’m very excited to see what April has in store for us. Lots of fun “Stay at #Home” themed photos!

Thank you to everyone that joins in 📷

My favourite pics from March...

The kiddies had a lot of fun playing in the bath today. Swimming pools are closed, it’s too cold to get outside in a paddling pool so we put our swimming costumes on and pretended!

The kids had loads of fun making sparkly bath water and foaming soap shapes with @kidsstuffcrazy products. It’s amazing how fun products like this can keep the kiddies entertained for hours.

They literally played in the bath for an hour. The water had gone cold by the time they got out. It was the perfect indoor fun activity, especially as it was wet outside today.

If you’re homeschooling and self isolating with young children why not make a fun bath and invite the kids to make a mess with whatever you have in the bathroom! We also tried to make our own bubble bath using washing up liquid and #citrus juice - it wasn’t a nice smell 😂 the kiddies will try again in the week.

You can get the Magical Sparkle bubble bath and Foaming Soap from Kids Stuff Crazy at @superdrug - check out my review on the blog. #linkinbio

#mummyphotoaday 🧼

The kiddies had a lot...

Today has been a busy day, but nice and chilled at the same time. We let the kiddies have iPad and Xbox time this morning; our homeschool doesn’t give out homework! They built some cool stuff in Minecraft and worked together. Which was nice to see.

After lunch we took a longer walk than in the week, across the river. This is a walking route that is direct from our doorstep and took us 90 minutes in total, part of our one exercise a day under lockdown rules. It was nice to get some fresh air and just talk about whatever comes into our heads. We spoke about a lot of random things. 7 & 9 year olds do come out with some funny comments. Noahs favourites are “would you rathers”. We got home and Daddy made a delicious roast dinner and I did a deep #clean in the bathroom. Then had a long hot bath!

No rush for any of these things as we seemingly have about 12 weeks of working at home and possibly months of homeschooling. I just hope we can have family over soon as we miss them all.

#mummyphotoaday

Today has been a busy...

I am running a day behind 🤦🏼‍♀️ I keep falling asleep and not posting my photos. I’ll catch up today... This is #fresh. Getting out in the fresh air has been a complete dream over the past week. When you’re told you can’t do something, it makes you want to do it more. Like when Hubby said we have to be careful about the food we eat, I wanted to eat it all!

This photo was the kiddies playing football with Daddy whilst I walked with them with the doggies. It’s something that’s becoming a habit after we finish homeschooling.

It’s a shame as Daddy normal gets out all of the time. On a typical Sunday he’ll go out for a 3 hour bike ride in the mornings. Possibly go swimming with the kids too. Walk the dogs with us later in the afternoon. I think this “1 exercise” rule will be effecting him more than anyone else I know. It’s also makes family decisions hard, if Daddy goes out on his bike he can’t walk with us. It’s very necessary with the lockdown rules. 
Just think how much we’ll all appreciate a long bike ride and driving to the beach for the day when all of this is over.

#mummyphotoaday

I am running a day...

Until tomorrow...

Until tomorrow...

Child Focus – 5 ways to protect your kids from the impact of separation and divorce

I hope that I never have to put my children through this, marriage can be a challenge sometimes and I know a few people that have gone through separation: the children have nearly always become a pawn in the situation, in some way. When I went through it as a child I do not remember feeling like a “pawn”, but it was a difficult time. I think maintaining a “child-focused” atmosphere, where the rights of the children of a marriage/partnership to have a safe and secure environment in which to live and to maintain healthy relationships with both parents is the most important thing. 

Separation or divorce can irrevocably alter children’s lives. However, there are plenty of ways that couple can ensure that their life choices have the minimum negative impact on their children. Here are a few:

Collaborative Practice

A fast-growing trend in family law circles, collaborative practice may be the most effective way to avoid the adversarial nature of the courts and traditional mediation. One leading divorce lawyer in Melbourne refers to it as “civilised separation”. By focusing firmly on solutions, rather than problems, and allowing each spouse to have the support of a team that will help guide them through the process, collaborative practice can drastically reduce the conflict that former partners experience.

Keep It Positive

Whilst the love between former spouses or partners may have faded, the children will almost always continue to love both their parents dearly. Abusing, deriding or disrespecting a former partner in front of the children can cause them immense psychological damage. Children are likely already struggling to come to process radical changes in family circumstances and living conditions. Hear parents speaking disparagingly about each other adds insult to injury. No matter what their feelings, parents should always make every effort to be civil, respectful and polite when speaking to or about their former partners.

Your Children Are Not Your Messengers

Once a couple is no longer together, children will be moving between two environments in which the structure and parenting style can differ markedly. It can be tempting for parents to utilise children to indirectly communicate messages regarding parenting to their former partner. Even where the intentions are entirely innocent, such practice can place children in an extremely uncomfortable position. Children never want to feel caught in the middle, so parents should always communicate with each other directly.

Let Go

The overwhelming consensus amongst psychologists is that not only is it completely OK for there to be different rules and structures in different homes; but such a dynamic can contribute to children growing up more adaptable, versatile and mentally resilient. As much as it may irk one parent to know that their kids watch more TV than they are comfortable with, or not eat as healthily at their other parent’s home, the sooner they accept these facts and let them go, the better. Harping on to children about the lifestyle that they experience in their other home will only lead to confusion and disillusion.

Safe Space to Communicate

No matter what their age, all children benefit from having the freedom to communicate during what is a tumultuous time in their lives. Even very young children are capable of experiencing surprisingly sophisticated emotions in response to changing family circumstances. As hard as it is, parents should speak frequently to their children in an open, compassionate, non-threatening way. This ensures that they feel comfortable expressing any fears, concerns, anger or sadness that they feel and have support to work through it. Parents who feel overwhelmed or uncomfortable in such situations are strongly recommended to have their children speak with a qualified child psychologist.

Every marriage, every breakup and every child is different. Just make sure that the children are the ones benefitting from the process, ensuring the transfer of home ownership is fair and everyone is supported is essential. For example, the quitclaim deed form gives the new home owner whatever interest the current owner has in the property when the deed is signed and delivered. While there is certainly no one-size-fits-all solution, following these guidelines will help both parents and children to navigate a difficult time in their lives.

Heart image from Shutterstock. 

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