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I recently read some information from Canesten ยฎ, they believe if you feel more comfortable with your own body you are more likely to reach your full potential. It made me think about the year I have had and how I could really do with 2017 being a fantastic year. They have started a campaign called “Mummy Conversations” encouraging Mummy’s to talk to their little ones and make sure everyone is comfortable and confident in terms of the female health.
This year has been quite stressful, I started off with good intentions but as the year has progressed I ended up giving up all the things I was enjoying. I stopped running, exercise classes, crochet, playing on my piano and I havenโt written a single song this year. I became fatigued, all of the time, and just miserable. But in reading information from Canestenยฎ I am getting into the New Year spirit with positivity and ready to start 2017 with a bang!
So first things first, I have been struggling over the past few months with my body and Isla has too, bless her. She is constantly telling me her personal โplaceโ is stinging. She is so sensitive to bubble baths and shower gels and that can lead to all kinds of intimate health issues. I cannot imagine how bad she will suffer when she hits puberty and we come across things like Thrush. I have explained to her about wiping from front to back, to make sure itโs as clean as possible and I even got her some wet wipes to use when she is having a stinging session. I make sure that she has bubble bath and shower gel that is for sensitive skin, so it is mild and less likely to cause her inflammation. I feel so sorry for her. I wear panty liners since having children and when she is having a particularly bad day, she puts one on too and gets comfort from the fact she is being like Mummy! I do think there is merit in having an airing session, when the children were babies we took the nappies off and had bare bum time. Doing this now, gives Isla the chance to get some air to her bottom and this helps too. As Isla gets older and develops there is no doubt I will be talkng to her about what us ladies have to put up with, from periods to Thrush symptoms, the perfect products to use and general cleanliness tips. At four years old I know that now is not that time, but I answer any question she has honestly and I believe we have a good foundation for when she is older and ready to have more in depth discussions. Education is key! I don’t remember sitting with my Mum and talking about intimate health and all things that coincide with that. I remember being really frightened when my first period started and I don’t think I have ever told my Mum I thought I had Thrush.
I think I have been suffering with mild doses of this since having the coil as my method of birth control. Whereas the positives of this are I do not have a period, suffer with period pains or have to worry about getting pregnant again. I do suffer with these symptoms and I wonder if it is because of the stress I have felt this year. Feeling tired and fatigued, wound up and not keeping my body fit and healthy must definitely have effected things. Being able to self-diagnose helps though, going to see the doctor or nurse about intimate things can sometimes be the ONE thing you want to avoid. Even after giving birth, twice, the last thing I want is someone poking around down there!
So as we approach the end of the year, I am going to focus on making time for me. Being happy. Spending more time with friends, I am a social butterfly after all, doing things I love: crochet, my piano and I will start writing music again. Hopefully I will have a healthier, happier year than 2016 and most of all, thanks to Canesten ยฎ: be at my full potential!
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Ann-marie
December 19, 2016I defo agree with a lot of the thjngs u have said. My little girl sometimes struggles with soreness sown there and i do worry abour makIng sure she wipes Properly. She also askS lots of questions about what is in my pants etc but she is only 4 and i dont want to go into mega detail jusy yet
msedollyp
December 20, 2016When you both feel comfortable, like Isla my girl suffers with soreness from time to time and luckily she is comfortable talking about it too.
Tracey Belcher
December 20, 2016I really do not like to put AGE on these things – Everyone and every child is different and it basically boils down to when you are both ready. The importance of wiping and cleaning can be instilled as early as possible and form a foundation for further discussions
Tracey Ryder
December 20, 201610 -11 WHEN THEY ARE NOTICING CHANGES IN THEIR BODIES
Sarah Brokenshire
December 20, 2016When they are going through puberty x
Tracy Nixon
December 20, 2016From the age og around 9.
Sarah mackay
December 20, 2016I would say around 9 years of ages
Kamara
December 20, 2016Around 10 or 11, when their bodies are changing and they are able to understand better.
Caroline Walliss
December 20, 2016I would say around 11 but it really depends on the indiviual child, thanks.x
paul
December 20, 2016around 10 years old .
Roraima
December 20, 2016I can understand how you feel as I have experienced it myself
Lorraine Johnson
December 20, 2016If it hasn’t come up before, then age 9/10 before they get too self conscious to listen
Andrew Petrie
December 20, 2016it will vary slightly but as soon as they are old enough to fully undestand, maybe 10 or 11.
emma walters
December 20, 2016i think the sooner the better, just the basics to start with and if they start asking questions to talk more
Hayley Berry
December 20, 2016There should be no right or WRONG age to talk about this with your child. My daughter is 11 and until she mentions anything to me then it won’t be discussed. Every child is c different.
anthony harrington
December 20, 2016it depends on the maturity of the child, I think around the ages of 9-10 .
edward
December 20, 2016around 10 years old .
Emma Eminoglu
December 20, 2016I think you will know when the time is Right, when that child seems mature enough to understand what you are saying
Ann Robinson
December 20, 2016I think around 11 is a good age to discuss it. however if they had any questions at an earlier age then i would give them an age appropriate response
Paul Wilson
December 20, 201610 or 11 seems about right.
Vivien Baird
December 20, 2016As soon as they are old enough to understand
Fiona K
December 20, 2016I think around 11ish when the child starts to mature and develop physically
Israr Baig
December 20, 2016I think the age is 13
Rachael simmons
December 20, 2016I think Year 7 age which is approx. 11 years old as it’s around the time girls get their first periods and the changes start in the bodies of both genders
s edwards
December 20, 2016I would say around 9 years of ages
amy bondoc
December 20, 2016between 9/11 years but depends really on the child and when puberty strts also
Rebecca Williams
December 20, 2016When they go through puberty and start to ask questions.
Jo Hutchinson
December 20, 2016Around nine or when the child is ready, and make the chat normal as possible
Ellen Sheppard
December 20, 2016I think around 10-11 is appropriate. I only got the very basics from my mum, I think she was embarrassed. Anyway, I had a couple of unpleasant experiences in my early teens which I was ill prepared for, I would hate that to happen to my daughter.
Catherine Reynolds
December 20, 2016Tracey Belcher- I argee with you. whenever they ask questions is when they should be answered!
lucy B
December 20, 2016I would say When they are going through puberty
Kerry Locke
December 20, 2016When they are mature enough to understand the importance of the discussion
Marianne Daniels
December 20, 2016Taking care of your body is important. using accessible terms from a young age, and making children aware of their bodies and how to communicate when something doesn’t feel right is important.
Alica
December 20, 2016As early as possible. My twins are now all grown up but we have never been shy to talk about intimate things together and if they asked questions, I answered truthfully and factual ๐
Helen Moulden
December 20, 2016I think between the ages of 9 or 10.
Laura Jeffs
December 20, 2016I don’t think there’s a specific age, it depends on the child’s maturity..If I had to say an age, I’d probably go for 9-10 years old
glenn hutton
December 20, 2016Depends on the child and when they also start asking questions.. but be honest on a level that they understand.
Soph h
December 20, 2016It depends on the child and of course if the conversation has come up for another reason but, I would say around 10 or 11
sian hallewell
December 20, 2016With puberty starting younger and younger, I think perhaps 9 is about right- but everyone is different
Hilda Wright
December 20, 2016I talked to my son whenever it felt appropriate as he grew up. By talking openly about things they’re just as normal as anything else. now he is grown up he can and will talk to me about anything!
Justine Hughes
December 20, 2016I think around the age of 10.
fozia Akhtar
December 20, 2016I think around the age of 10/11
Gillian Holmes
December 20, 2016From the age around 9.
TJ
December 20, 201612
simon tutthill
December 20, 2016i would say about 11 or 12
Lee Ritson
December 20, 2016I think 11/12 is a good age but it depends on the maturity of the child in question
Alana Walker
December 20, 2016Probably at about 10 or 11 just before they go to secondary school or reach puberty. Its important as they should not feel scared about talking about such things.
Sadia iqbal
December 20, 2016I think everyone reaches maturity at a diffetent age.
I know my eldest one is definitely more open about this stuff then i was.
barbara daniels
December 20, 2016about 10 or 11 seems the right age
laura banks
December 20, 2016probably about 11 seems a good age
Jenna Parrington
December 20, 2016I think it depends on the child but i would say around 8-10 years od age x
Chloe Davies
December 20, 201610 – 11
Farhana
December 20, 2016When they are going through the physical signs of puberty is usually when they are also mentally ready
Bob Clark
December 20, 2016when they are in their teens – possibly sooner
Jodie A Harvey
December 20, 2016i think just before teens, so that they are prepared for change
Sara Goodman
December 20, 2016i’d say About 12 or 13 when a child is old enough to understand.
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Lindsey Stuart
December 20, 2016I tHINK ABOUT THE AGE OF 11 (JUST BEFORE HIGH SCHOOL)
Suzanne McC
December 20, 2016It will vary from child to child, but when they’re old enough to understand bits, introduce it gradually, but early enough so they are comfortable talking about intimate issues from a young-ish age, if you don’t start until nearly puberty, they’ll likely just find it embarrassing.
TRACY JAMES
December 20, 2016i think 11/12 but all parents know their children best and will know when the time is right.
Pauline jaconelli
December 20, 2016About tHe age of ten or whenever they feel like talking about it.
Kim Neville
December 20, 2016Around age 9. Children start puberty at different times and kids talk at school. Make them Feel relaxed talking about personal things
Tina Lockett
December 20, 2016i think its pretty INSTINCTIVE and dependant on your child. 9plus would be the youngest for me.
Fiona B
December 20, 20167/8
lORRAINE tINSLEY
December 20, 2016wE ARE VERY OPEN ABOUT MOST THINGS SO i WOULD SAY AT THE LATEST 10-13, BUT THEN IT DEPENDS HOW MATURE THEY ARE. i WOULDN’T WANT TO KEEP THINGS SECRET OR BE PRUDISH ABOUT IT.
Kelly Hemmings
December 20, 2016I personally think aroUnd age 12 but i think it depends on the iNdevidual child. I think it is really important to have a good open relationship so they can cone to you to discuss anythink they need to knoW.
gabby
December 21, 2016about 9 before they find out elsewhere
Becky Duffy
December 21, 2016Around 8-9 or whenever they start asking questions….it depends really on how mature the child is ๐
Sean Maloney
December 21, 2016I would say around 9 years of ages
clair downham
December 21, 2016ABOUT 9 BEFORE PUBERTY AND HIGH SCHOOL
natalie grice
December 21, 2016as soon as you can but age appropriately ๐
Kelly Hirst
December 21, 2016I think around age 10 is probably About right but it really depends on the child & the situatioN
Sam Swain
December 21, 2016I think that you should answe their QUESTIONS honestly whenever they ask.
Jade Hewlett
December 21, 2016Id say around 10 is a good age but it depends on the child
Emma Gibson
December 21, 2016I think about 8 so they get comfortable talking about their issues.
Jayne Townson
December 21, 2016I think as soon as they start asking questions and certainly before they start secondary school, because if itโs something youโve always spoke about, it makes not such a big deal.
C Parkin
December 21, 2016I think 8 or 9 is a good time to raise this kind of thing.
Jane
December 21, 2016As young as possible as long as they are ready/
Ellie Wood
December 22, 2016when their going to secondary school, but throughout childhood to make things easier
Beverley Cousins
December 22, 2016Think about 11ISH, DEPENDS HOW MATURE THEY ARE
Marc Chivers
December 22, 20168-10
Janice
December 22, 2016I THInk you can start from a fairly early age
Beky austerberry
December 22, 2016I think when children start asking questions – just make sure the answers are suitable to their level of understanding.
Emma Rawlinson
December 23, 2016I think about 10 years old as it’s important to have a chat before they reach puberty. But it really depends on the child
Charlie Brunton
December 24, 2016I think around age 9/10 but if they ask QUESTIONS sooner, it would be better to answer honestly! I was brought up by my dad and lived with my two brothers so i had no one to ask about things that were going through my mind! It can be scary so i think its great to normalise tge topic!
hannah wood
December 24, 2016Around 8-10
Danny J
December 24, 2016PErsonally around 10 years old would be the best time to have the talk
KARIM KHIMJI
December 25, 201616 is best age
Penny H
December 26, 2016I would say at about aged 10 or 11 would be the right time.
sam macaree
December 26, 2016when they start questioning things
Joanne Hutchings
December 26, 2016I think the rIght age depends on the child but generally once they’ve started primary school.
Angela Wilcox
December 26, 2016When they start asking questions, with age appropriate answers
Nicki SIMPSON
December 27, 2016I will discuss with my daughter as soon as i notice changes in her mood, skin Or if she tells me shes strugglinG, i had my first period At 11 and also struggled with my mental health starting with OCD at This age tOo
Mary Heald
December 27, 2016I think about 9 or 10 depending on the child
Gillian mcclelland
December 27, 2016i think you should discuss as soon as the child starts asking questions so that they feel comfortable coming to you for advice
ELIZABETH DOODY
December 27, 2016Whenever it feel right for you and your child, giving as much or as little detail as required and as they will understand. It is more important that they feel they can talk about things as and when they arise
NOLENE ONEILL
December 27, 2016only when the child is ready for it, WHEN THEY ACTUALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT.
rebecca courtney
December 27, 2016around 10 i feel is a good age
Helen Tovell
December 27, 2016When they start to ask questions and are able to understand the answers, it will be different for each child
gaynor davies
December 27, 2016I would say around 8 or 9
jules eley
December 27, 2016Being a mum of 4 I have found each child to be different. My eldest never felt comfortable talking about intimate things until he was 13, i didnt feel the need to push it and knew it would just happen on its own, my 2nd son feels find talking at 10 and my daughters are happy to discuss anything at 8 and 6. I think you know when to start talking its just easier for some earlier and others need a bit more time.
bella smyth
December 27, 2016I would say around 9 years of ages but depends on how mature they are
debbie smith
December 28, 2016i think there isnt an age if a problem ARISES DISCUSS it then HOWEVER i do think its good to explain to children if they have any issues with OTHER areas THAT it is ok and that they should tell you right away x
Kay Broomfield
December 28, 2016At whatever age the questions start to arise, but answered in an age appropriate fashion.
Rebekah Jones
December 28, 2016Child dependent … For example with my son he wouldnt have wanted to know anything until high school at the earliest .. but with my daughters I think 9 ish is about the right age as some of their friends or themselves may start developping that early.. however basics can be done earlier !!
Polly Rogers
December 28, 2016I don’t think there’s a set age, it depends on your child maturity, but the younger the better, so they know they can talk to you about it all.
Diane Waugh
December 28, 201611-12 years old
Ella L
December 29, 2016so tricky! I think it depends on the maturity and inquisitiveness of the child. I think it is important that all children need to know it is important to wipe/wash/keep clean down there! and then answer the questions as they come as honestly as possible.
Deborah Clarke
December 29, 2016From as soon as they are old enough to understand and communicate so not to make taboo of such subjects
Jade P
December 29, 2016I think when they start going through puberty is a good age to start!
Diane Carey
December 29, 2016I think it varies depending on the child. My daughter had a talk at the end of middle school with all her year. As she asked anything i would answer it
angela sandhu
December 29, 2016Around 9 or 10
Ruby Spiteri
December 29, 2016around the age 11-12
Julie Howarth
December 30, 2016i’d say about 10 years old but earlier if they start asking questions
Annette Oliver
December 30, 2016As soon as they start puberty
sUSAN sMITH
December 31, 2016ALL CHILDREN GROW AND MATURE AT DIFFERENT RATES, BUT I BELIEVE WHEN THEY START ASKING QUESTIONS AND COMING OUT WITH THINGS THEY HAVE LEARNT FROM KIDS AT SCHOOL, THEN I BELIEVE IS THE TIME.
Kim Styles
December 31, 2016I think about 10 years old is right
Margaret GALLAGHER
January 1, 2017From mid primary cjildren are developing so quickly and are much more aware -no longer a taboo subject
Richard R
January 1, 2017When they start to ask questions at 10-11
Rich Tyler
January 1, 2017I think between 10-11, but depending on how grown up…
Sarah Mcvicar
January 1, 2017I think when you feel they are old enough to understand, each child is different xx
Alix boswell
January 1, 2017Depends on the child.. like my niece has had quite a few issues with sorness and infections so she is always in the doctors but shes only 3 but i think she realises now, and she Knows she needs to wipe properly otherwise she will get sore and have to have the horrible meDicine that she doesnt like haha!
Hannah smith
January 1, 2017iT definitely depends on the child, you can’t say one age for all of them.. but i think you can tell e.g. when they start asking questions or if they have any issues etc.
Mel Turner
January 1, 2017When ever they start asking
Victoria mylittlel
January 1, 2017I would say between 10 and 12 but it depends on how developed is your child. Its lawys good to start early so that kids know that it is nothing to be scared of
Sharon C.
January 2, 2017Around 9-10
Chloe M.
January 2, 2017I think the right age should be around 10 when the child is ready to talk about these things.
Ellie Jones
January 2, 2017About 10 or 11 depending on the maturity
Zoey P
January 2, 2017WHen you think time is right 10-12
katrina walsh
January 2, 2017I think about 9 or 10 before they start senior school
Christina Curtis
January 2, 2017I think between 10-12 every Child is different but you should have an idea when the right time is and when they are ready
Carole E
January 2, 2017When they start asking questions as they all mature at different rates
suzanne sendell
January 2, 2017as soon as you can the earlier the better as it makes talking about othervissues easier
Em S
January 2, 2017Probably 11/12 years old.
allison sullivan
January 2, 2017my youngest is 6 and we talk openly about everything and she understands that is something isn’t right to come talk to me, so if she is ever sore due to not wiping correctly or a wee infection she can come to me without been embarrassed about it,sheknows a lot for her age but with it she understands so much
Leila Benhamida
January 3, 2017Every children are different. The right age for me Is about 8-9
sam mckean
January 3, 2017From about the age of 10, when they are old enough to be aware of their bodies and how they work but not too embarrassed to discuss intimate issues
Louise Burgess
January 3, 2017Its hard to put age on it as my son is only two so dont have to think about it for a while
Jane h Shaw
January 3, 2017Every kid is different so I think its best when they ask.
Jay Hill
January 3, 2017I think it depends on the child – once they start showing curiosity about their bodies might be a good starting point for age appropriate discussions
Ian Turner
January 3, 201710 to 11
kelly rebecca mobbs
January 3, 2017I think you will know when the right time is, too young and they may not fully understand so maybe 9 upwards.
Cassandra Mayers
January 3, 2017Around the age of 10, or before if they are having changes or problems.
leanne weir
January 3, 2017AROUND 10 OR 11
samantha currie
January 3, 201710
lyn burgess
January 3, 2017as soon as they are old enough to fully undestand, maybe 9 or 10.
Emma fEarn
January 4, 2017This is such a lovely personal and caring blog. Uour Daughter has a brilliant MUmmy
JODIE BEAUMONT
January 4, 2017about 10 but it depends on the individual child i think
milly Youngman
January 4, 2017Depends on the child – but I’d say around 10/11 sounds about right.
cheryl sutton
January 4, 2017I think that you should discuss it at the time that is suitable for your child, my 11 year old has known all about periods etc since she was around 7 due to somebody at school scaring her and telling her she was going to constantly bleed when she got to big school however my 7 year old is nowhere near as close to understanding it all
Tracey S Anderson
January 4, 2017I feel that instinct and knowing what age your childs ability to understand the subject is key. My daughter was younger than my son before broaching the subject as i felt my daughter was more mature and able to understand more than my son at her age.
Tracey S Anderson
January 4, 2017So sorry that was meant to say my one daughter was younger than my other daughter (not my son )
michelle o\'neill
January 4, 2017as soon as they are old enough to understand properly x
Louis b
January 4, 2017When the time is right, no point forcing It otherwise it would be uncomfortable and wouldn’t mean anything!
Solange
January 5, 2017Around 10 or 11
Jo Carroll
January 5, 2017I truly believe that we should maintain that honesty and openess with our children that we share from their very early years that we spend changing their nappies, talking about going on the potty and cleaning ourselves properly afterwards. Good Hygene is a habit well learnt and even better practised…never be afraid to share your thoughts and concerns. x
stephanie
January 5, 2017I will wait until they start asking questions and i feel ฤบike they are mature enough to understand. My daughter is 7 and she is already asks lots of different questions
Jennifer
January 5, 2017When they start asking questions it seems fair to give answers however it really depends on the indivual child. i do believe however that everyone has a right to know how their bodies work you just have to tailor their education to their needs.
melanie stirling
January 5, 2017I think about 9 years old but each child is individual and you will know the best time for them.
sharon stanley
January 6, 2017I think you should base the age you discuss with your children on their maturity level. Being open with them from day one allows them to feel comfortable enough to tell you if something is wrong rather than being embarassed. Although they should be taught it’s a private area for a reason they should also know that they can come to you if they are uncomfortable.
Sinead ORourke
January 6, 2017When they are teenagers.
Mrs Gemma Huelin
January 6, 2017I would say around 9-10 years of age
catherine
January 6, 2017every child is different, when you feel the time is right
sam rhodes
January 6, 2017about 10
Karen Langridge
January 6, 2017I am not sure when you think they are ready and I guess that can vary from child to child x
perr nish
January 7, 2017It depends on the child but i believe 11-12 years old would be a good age
Iris W
January 7, 2017I think it depends individually you can’t really put an age on these things
Fiona Evans
January 7, 2017My Daughter is almost 10 and im lucky we have a closeness where she feels she can come to me about anything. Ive always been honest and open with her and when she asks we’ll sit down over a hot chocolate with marshmallows and have a girly chat, i remember being so mortified when we had personal chats in school IN FRONT of the whole class and got thrown some sanitary towels.. i think mine stayed UNOPENED for the next four years! Every child is different and matures at different times but i think its important they are assured that its a change we all go through and nothing to be at all EMBARRASSED about ๐ also ladies…fruitshoots and strong juices (especially orange) used to burn my daughter horrendously down below! cut them out to sugar free squash and she hasnt had a problem since xxx
lyn west
January 7, 2017Around the age of 9 or 10 Before their friends start filling their heads with rubbish
Jo Glasspool
January 8, 2017When they are about 9/10 before they hit puberty.
Daniel Coles
January 8, 2017Probably 11 or 12 depending on how grown up they are.
Sue Price
January 8, 2017I’ve always been very open with my girls and started talking about intimate health from around 7-8. If its introDuced early then it saves embaressment as thry get older i found.
Rosie Cathro
January 8, 2017I think It’s really important to always be open with children about their bodies. Growing up I always felt I could talk to my mum and ask her any questions I had & I will try to be the same with my children when I become a mum. I think it’s vital that children don’t grow up feeling ashamed or embarrassed about their bodies. I will teach my children how to look take care of their intimate health at each stage of their childhood as their independence gradually increases through into puberty.
Helen w
January 8, 2017i feel that when they ask questions to answer in a way they are able to understand and then when they get close to having the sex talk at school is a great time to carry on the conversation so they are able to understand what needs to be done to keep a healthy body
Melanie Gardiner
January 8, 2017where health and hygiene is concerned then the earlier the better, but generally i think conversations happen naturally when a child is ready to ask and know the answers to these things
Kim Roberts
January 8, 2017Honestly, I have no idea, I think all children are different and only the parent can judge when they are ready
Muhammad Ehsan
January 8, 2017I Would Say Around 10 years
ragan bennett
January 9, 2017maybe age 11, depends on the child
Sheila Sloan
January 9, 2017Round about 11
Kevin Pike
January 9, 2017I don’t think there is a right age. It comes down to when you feel the child can understand and retain the important information about it
Kate Roessler
January 9, 2017It scares me that my daughter will be 8 this year and potentially beginning to go through things like this
sarah rowland
January 9, 2017iTS A hard one to call as all children develop at different ages, some might be ready before others, i think deep down you will know when the time is right, until then just let them enjoy being kids
Clare B
January 9, 2017I don’t think it is possible to pin point an age as children vary so much. It should be when the parent feels they are ready.
louise A
January 10, 2017Depending on how mature the child is I would suggest between the ages of 10-11 before puberty kicks in but i would address all questions raised honestly as and when they happened
Lorraine Stone
January 10, 2017Start early, but perhaps pad out the conversation a bit fuller from around 8.
Emma Anderson
January 10, 2017At any age, its important to be open about things which could become more EMBARRASSING the older the child gets. I want my children to feel comfortable asking me anything!
Carly Belsey
January 10, 2017I think the right age to discuss intimate things is before they go to senior school before they can receive false information from other children
Tina Glover
January 11, 2017What an interesting and honest post. I think a lot of us find it hard to discuss intimate health issues. i have a daughter and i have tried to be as honest as i can with everything. She is 11 and I would like to think she can always ask me anything but I know as she gets older she may get embarrased. Thanks for the chance to win an Amazon voucher that would amazing x
christine taylor
January 11, 2017I bought my daughter a book when she was 10 x
Katie head
January 11, 201710
Karen Lloyd
January 11, 2017Depends on the child and how curious they are. Maybe age 10 if they haven’t asked anything before that.
Michaela Hannah
January 12, 2017I think before secondary school
Katie
January 12, 2017Approx 10 or when stArt asking quest
zoe fox
January 12, 2017i agree im not a mum but it can be so tough i look up to mums as i looked after childern before and it was tricky your all heros mums of the world so strong and powerful
Emma Fox
January 12, 2017Around 9-11 and before secondary school as there is a lot of information/misinformation about
Becki Gates
January 13, 2017I don’t think there is a specific age. I think it depends on the child
Lydia Frew
January 13, 2017I Dont think there is an age. Just drip feed the information as they grow up so that it never becomes an issue.
Ann-Marie D
January 13, 2017I think it depends-on how mature or shy your daughter is. I think ensuring she is comfortable talking about these issues is important, as is answering any questions as and when.
Mark Rayner
January 13, 2017i think it depends on the child. I think you just know when it is right.
stephen holman
January 13, 2017I agree with what most have said, it all depends on the maturity of the child there wouldn’t really be a set age. once they’re old enough to understand i would go for it
Maria P
January 13, 2017I think it would be around 10 years old
Paul
January 14, 2017Prefer to come from us so they feel they can talk to us
Lucie Aiston
January 14, 2017I personally have spoken to my daughter about this since she was about 10 years old. Shes 14 now. I think you know when the time is right with your own child
Laura Chesmer
January 14, 2017Around the age of 8 or 9, shortly before starting puberty.
Heather Haigh
January 14, 2017I think all children are different and parents can gauge it by the questions they ask and the normal conversations about our bodies.
gILLIAN tURNER
January 14, 2017I don’t think you can really put an age on it, you know your child aND WILL KNOW WHEN TO HAVE THESE CHATS.
Sarah Wilson
January 14, 2017It depends on the maturity of the individual child.
Melissa Crowe
January 14, 2017before the teens
Hayley Mulgrove
January 14, 2017When they start puberty
Jodi Hill
January 15, 2017I think it depends on the child & how open the parent has been to start with, purely a judgment call ๐
Derek Wilson
January 15, 2017I don’t think you can specify an age, but just before puberty sounds appropriate.
Amanda noble
January 15, 2017My.little girl asked lots of questions from the age of 6 so i told her what i thought was appropriate for her age.
amanda rockeford
January 15, 2017HOPE THIS HELP SOME WHEN MY DAUGHTER WAS EIGHT SHE HAD SOME TROUBLES AND WE TOOK HER TO THE DOCTOR TURNED OUT SHE GOT ECZEMA AND WAS ALWAYS SORE SO i SAT HER DOWN AND TOLD HER TO APPLY HER CREAM DOWN BELOW AND TOLD HOW MAKE SURE WIPES CORRECT AND i EXPLAINED TO HER ALSO ABOUT PERIODS AND EVERYTHING SHE NOW WELL CLUED UP AND HELPS HER FRIENDS WHEN THEY HAVE PROBLEM SHE NOW 17 AND AND i AM GLAD i TOLD HER yOUNG AS i KNOW SOME GIRLS WHO STARTED YOUNG AND HAD SO MANY PROBLEMS AS YOUNG AS TEN .X
Nikki Hayes
January 15, 2017Maybe around 11 or 12, it depends on the child.
lindsey bray
January 15, 201712
Joan gray
January 15, 201712
Patricia Avery
January 15, 2017Every child is different. You are the one to know your child best and what info to give and when. Being open from a young age helps ๐
Keshia Esgate
January 15, 2017around 11 years old
Ruth Wollerton
January 15, 2017I think whenever they start asking questions and become inquisitive, is the time to answer. Normally about 9-11
Robyn Clarke
January 16, 2017While I think every child is different and its difficult to suggest one particular age I think its important for them to understand and expect things so that they aren’t scared or surprised, I will probably start chatting to my children from about 9 or 10
Mike W
January 16, 2017Depends on how bright the child is, but as introduce the ideas as soon as they’re willing able to understand then take it further at a later time
Susan Hoggett
January 16, 201710 or 11 but it completely depends on the child, you can tell by the types of questions they start asking
Donna Clinton
January 16, 2017I would say it’s different for all children but i think you will know when the time is right!
janet dring
January 16, 2017When they are going through puberty
Jodie Cook
January 16, 2017I would say it depends on the child as all children are at different stages. Some don’t ask questions others do.
Rebecca Alderson
January 16, 2017Straight away! Getting kids to feel comfortable with their bodies is the best way I think
Lindsay Seels
January 16, 2017i think around the age of 10 yrs old
Claire Melvin
January 16, 2017Every child is different but I would say around ten would be an appropriate age.
Michaela jennings
January 16, 2017JUST when you are both comfortable and they are old enough to understand
Allison Sherwood
January 17, 2017I think every child is different and some will ask questions earlier than others. I think when a child starts to ask questions it is best to answer as honestly as possible in a way your child can understand.
Paula Phillips
January 17, 2017When they start to notice things and ask questions. I always answer their questions as honestly as I can with as much detail as they need to know that is appropriate for their age at the time. They have a talk in school at about age 9 or 10 so I’d explain some things to them before this.
Valerie Seal
January 17, 2017this come gradually, preferably before they are caring for their own hygiene as they are not so open to discussion then.
joanne oneill
January 17, 2017I think every child is different
Anni Ezmerelda
January 17, 2017I think it depends on the child. As a parent you know your child better than anyone, but as a guide about 10-11 when their bodies are changing and they’re starting to notice it.
Liz Hardie
January 17, 2017Around 10 unless a health issue comes up or They ask questions themselves
Sarah Lewis
January 17, 2017around 10 years old
Julie edwards
January 17, 2017I think that it is ok to start talking about intimate health when you both feel comfortable.one of my daughters i could speak with earlier than the other as both developed at different stages.
ELZBIETA ZNYK
January 17, 2017about age 10-11 is right age in my opinion.
holly harmsworth
January 17, 201710 my daughters age
Kat Glynn
January 17, 2017Around ten years old, but when it feels natural.
Laura Bryant
January 17, 2017I would say between 9-11
Sylvia Paul
January 17, 2017I started talking to my daughter at the age of 9 when she started showing signs of puberty.
Carol Cann
January 17, 2017i Believe it depends on the individual child, I think it is important at all ages to taylor the way we talk to their age, I therefore am unsure on putting a specific age
Claire toplis
January 17, 2017When a girls body starts to change msybe year 5
hannah ingham
January 17, 2017I think it really depends on how quick the child matures ๐
Valerie Kay
January 17, 2017Around 9 years old.
Rebecca Elaine Pawsey
January 17, 2017around age of 12
Sam parkes
January 17, 2017I’ve had the Pants Chat with my 8yr old following advice from the nspcc website. We’ve discussed our private areas how to clean that area and whats appropriate and what isn’t. As for puberty i will wait until shes about 10.
Kirsti Peters
January 17, 201712
Lisa Wilkinson
January 17, 2017My little girl is 3 and knows about periods already as she’s walked in on me. i’ve only told her the basics but she knows there’s nothing to be scared. i think towrds the end of primary school is best for more in depth conversations
Julie Whittaker
January 17, 2017Whenever the time arises – there’s no set age as such.
Paula cheadle
January 17, 2017I think it depends upon the child, when they understand then that is the time to tell then
joanna kasznicki
January 17, 2017I think when they are mature enough but before high school as they need to know everything
Beryl drake
January 17, 2017When you know the time is right for your child
Jamie Millard
January 18, 201710/11 – bEFORE THE SCHOOL Starts covering such topics
Andrew Hindley
January 18, 2017Probably at about 10 or 11
Gillian C
January 18, 2017I would say age 10 or 11 years.
Marrian
January 18, 2017I think at the beginning of puberty.
Libby Noack
January 18, 2017I have started to talk to my daughter aged 8
Diana
January 18, 2017I think at around 12
sarah ann
January 18, 2017I think when you feel most comfortable (and so does the child), but definitely by puberty, it’s so important .
lisa rhodes
January 18, 2017around 10
Antonia Richardson
January 18, 2017NINE OR TEN
Emma Smith
January 18, 2017I don’t think you know until they’re actually ready – each child is so different
Clare H
January 18, 2017I think it depends mainly on the child but when they start asking questions i think is a good time
Jenny Jones
January 18, 2017you will know when it’s the right time when you start getting questions and in the meantime explainging the importance of being hygenic etc is important it’s going to be around the time puberty hits i’m guessing
Keri Jones
January 18, 2017We talk about making sure bits are clean but at the moment that’s as far as we have gone. I’m not really sure if I’m honest, I just know I want it to be younger than when I was told (11 and just starting my periods).
james wright
January 18, 2017about 10 years old
Maggie Bermann
January 18, 2017i DONT THINK CAN SAY AN AGE AS EACH CHILD IS AN INDIVIDUAL. tEACHING PERSONAL HYGENE SHOULD START AT POTTY TRAINING BUT MORE iNITIMATE DETAILS SHOULD START WHEN UR CHILD IS READY, I THINK EVERY PARENT KNOWS WHEN. (AN IDEAL TIME IS PROABABLY IF DUE A YOUNGER SIBLING INTO THE FAMILY)
Hayley Elvin
January 18, 2017When they are noticing changes in themselves and start questioning about their bodies. Each child grows up at different rates and some are more inquisitive than others. i think you can be truthful but be age appropriate in how you answer questions too.
sharon martin
January 18, 2017think it depends on the child but say around 9 or 10 yrs, think its good the understand how/why their bodies changing so they donโt worry needlessly
Tracey Bean
January 18, 2017I think about 10 years old, when their bodies are start to show signs of changing
alison clark
January 18, 2017As soon as they start asking questions .
Caroline Smith
January 18, 2017it’s really important to discuss good hygiene as soon as potty training starts and how to wipe properly. I have 3 girls, the eldest is 8, i still think it is too young to go into details about intimate health too much.
Nikki Hunter-Pike
January 18, 2017as soon as they are able to understand and take interest
Ann-Marie Gould
January 18, 2017I THINK ABOUT AGED 10-11 YRS IS THE RIGHT AGE ITS IMPORTANT TO TALK HONESTLY ABOUT THINGS SO THEY GET THE CORRECT INFORMATION
Kristy Brown
January 18, 2017I think each child is different. For us our daughter started asking questions about about 7
Steph Lovatt
January 18, 2017I think it depends on the child, so whenever you both feel comfortable
Gill Mitchell
January 18, 2017I think from 8, when they’re a bit more mature but also approaching puberty.
LAURA WHEATLEY
January 18, 2017ithink it depends on the child
Kate Knight
January 18, 2017around 10
Cathryn Crawshaw
January 18, 2017I think when the time is right for both of you. When you are comfortable or feel the need to talk
Claire B
January 18, 2017as and when need arises
ruth hunter
January 18, 2017whenever they start going to the loo on their own, so they know not to wipe back to front
Sue Harrison
January 18, 2017From as soon as they can talk and communicate. It should be as natural as discussing anything else.
Alexandra Dixon-Mersh
January 18, 2017I think they are never too young to talk about basic preventative measures for soreness that you have talked about like the correct way of wiping and keeping yourself clean. I’d probably discuss deeper when my daughter seems ready or when she starts to question me. Not shying away from these ’embarrassing’ subjects removes the shame and taboo associated with them and empowers our daughters to own their own bodies.
ellie spider
January 19, 2017I actually think it should be part of your general routine from as young an age as possible – discuss it whilst bathing etc – that way then as they get older it wont be a taboo or silly subject it will just be something they are comfortable chatting to you about
Sarah Mills
January 19, 2017as soon as they ask questions!
claire little
January 19, 2017i’m open with my children and answer any question honestly. I’ve spoken to my 10 year old about puberty and sex.
sarah evans
January 19, 2017I Don’t think there is a right or WRONG AGE THE PARENT KNOWS THE CHILD BEST AND WILL DO IT WHEN THEY FEEL THE TIME IS RIGHT, YOU JUST KNOW
Jane Middleton
January 19, 2017I would start age appropriate conversations quite early on 5 – 7, it’s good to learn them young and to learn them to be comfortable to talk about it.
George Wright
January 19, 2017In The final year or so of primary school so they have all the facts before going to secondary school.
Dorothy McDowell
January 19, 2017I think age 11
Emma H
January 19, 2017I think that from the age of about 9+ is right. BUt also depends on the child
JOANNE CASEY
January 19, 2017i THINK ITS DIFFERENT WITH EVERY CHILD, MY DAUGHTER WAS ABOUT 8 WHEN SHE WAS READY AND BEGAN TO BE CURIOUS ABOUT THINGS
Andrew
January 19, 2017Having 3 children i think you know when the time is right
Rachel Butler
January 19, 2017I feel the best time to talk ab these issues is when your child seems ready. I believe in being as honest as Possible
Jen Dot
January 19, 2017I don’t think there is a right or a wrong age. Every parent will know when it is time to start discussing such issues with their children. Introducing these topics SENSITIVELY early on can be really helpful in supporting children to feel COMFORTABLE, rather than EMBARRASED talking about it.
Gemma Holland
January 19, 2017It Depends what questions your children ask and how appropriate you feel it is according to the individual child
Rachael obrien
January 19, 2017I have Three daughters and we openly talk about hygiene . When they ask question or of any problems occur , if not around 9/10 i think x
Jayne Kelsall
January 19, 2017i WOULD SAY ABOUT 8-9 BUT i THINK IT ALSO DEPENDS ON THE CHILDS MATURITY TOO .
Hannah walker
January 19, 2017I believe in being open and honest with my children. If they asked questions I try and answer them as honestly as possible without scaring them too much. I started talking about body changes with my eldest when she was 9 and my younger daughter is 9 now and has no interest yet so we haven’t spoken about it. There are some great kids books about growing up which helped with my biggest girl x
Janine Phillips
January 19, 2017I’d say around puberty x
hayley pemberton
January 19, 2017My oldest daughter is 10. we have been talking about it for a few years now. My second daughter is 6 but we haven’t had the conversation yet but I would be open to it if she started the conversation
Rebecca Lis
January 19, 2017I would say around 10 but really depends on the child
Steve Hearne
January 19, 2017Around 12 or whenever they are keen to learn
hayley cooper
January 19, 2017My daughter is 8 and want her to be able to ask me any questions she wants so we talk openly about things
Tess D
January 19, 2017As soon as you start talking about body parts and washing then it’s natural and age appropriate
karen Howden
January 19, 2017As soon as your child starts asking questions, you give them the answers
Alison Burns
January 19, 2017Any time from 9 wished they start little girls for longer ๐
Lynsey Buchanan
January 19, 2017I think the ideal age would be around 8 years old as knowledge is power and kids need to be aware
lucie fish
January 19, 2017i talk about it with my step daughter who is 6 now, not so much detail but she knows to tell either me or her mum if shes got a problem, our youngest girl is nearly 2 and as soon as she is potty trained i ll be reminding her the correct way to wipe etc and that if she ever feels itchy or sore or has any issues to come to me straight away. ive also spoken to my 7 year old son as its important for boys to know about intimate hygiene aswell. really enjoyed reading this piece on your blog!
Maria Jane Knight
January 19, 2017I would maybe say age 10 to 11?!
lesley renshaw
January 19, 2017I think the right time is when you’re ready or when they ask questions.
Yvonne wilkInson
January 19, 2017Totally dependant on the individual child and how much tHey understand
sandy
January 19, 2017I THINK YOU need to do it right from the start. Leave it until they’re approaching puberty and they’ll find it embarrassing – have the talk while they’re as young as possible and they’ll just consider it normal.
Sharon worsley
January 19, 2017I think it shoulD be an ongoing discussion. My four year old recentY asked questions about how he came out of my tummy, i GaVe him a frank answer using proper words.
Theresa Alison
January 19, 2017my daughter is quite open even at the age of 13 and even when she brings her friends in the house they sit and talk about girly things but talk maturely about it. quite shocked I was never like this at her age
Rebecca mercer
January 19, 2017I think Last year of primary school is a good age
Gemma Massey
January 19, 2017I rhink it depends on your littl girl as everyones different aNd develops at different tImes. MY advixe would be play it by ear and youll know when
Jackie Roberts
January 19, 2017I think openly discussing these things is essential. I can’t remember sitting my daughter down as such but openly discussed these things when it seemed relevant.
tammi nutting
January 19, 2017it depends. my youngest started puberty at 5 and periods at 9 we had lots of chats as at 5 it was hard for her to understand the changes.
LORRAINE FLETCHER
January 19, 2017iT DEPENDS ON THE INDIVIDUAL CHILD, i THINK MOST PARENTS WOULD AGREE
Matthew O\'Reilly
January 19, 2017when the body starts to change and they see the changes and have question then, it will be different for every child, so anywhere from 11 +
Melanie Burton
January 19, 2017When it feels right. Deanna is 5 and we have spoken basics because of occassional soreness, but not too much detail until she is older
Ian Campbell
January 19, 2017Age 12. By then their perceptions of the world have started to develop, and you can simplify certain aspects of the discussion if necessary, to get the points across ๐
jayne hall
January 19, 2017before their teenagers
jayne hall
January 19, 2017before their teens
Emma robinson
January 19, 2017I Think as soon as a child start asKing
Emma choonage
January 19, 2017How fantastic to offer such a fantastic prize x
Helen Metcalfe
January 19, 2017All children are of course different and I feel that if you keep talking openly, but staying age appropriate, during all stages of their developement, then they will come to you with questions.
Anneka Hulse
January 19, 2017when there body starts to change
Sue cotton
January 19, 2017If your child is asking questions then they are probably old enough to be given the answers, even if just the basics. i feel you can overclean INTIMATE areas and soap and water in the bath iS often enough or maybe a drop Of lavender oil in the water, its very soothing
tishist
January 19, 2017whenever it feels appropriate as every child’s different.
Rebecca Phillips
January 19, 2017Around 10 or 11 – at puberty! My parents never spoke to me ABOUT anything like this So I definitely want me children to be informed and not be shy about asking me questions.
Laura Findlay
January 19, 2017Around 10 when they start going through changes although I believe it’s always best to be open and honest to questions x
Rachel Craig
January 19, 2017Is there a right age? I think it can depend on child, their level of development, undErstanding etc. though I do think it is best to inform and educate children as and when appropriate. Rather than putting of giving them relevant information, in an appropriate enviroment with privacy etc, so as to encourage them to feel comfortable in asking questions etc.
Deborah Mackenzie
January 19, 2017I DEPENDS ON THE CHILD, BUT HONEST ANSWERS ARE THE BEST, BUT DONT GO INTO DETAILS THEY CANT UNDERSTAND, OR NEED TO KNOW UNTIL A LATER AGE.
Rebecca roberts
January 19, 2017I think about ten fab blog
Claire Ward
January 19, 2017I would say between 9 or 10
sarah
January 19, 2017i would hope my little girl too feels comfortable to talk to me about intimate health issues. I was and still am always prone to thrush due to my diabetes, so she is well aware that things can get itchy and sore….luckily she has not been affected yet.
samantha buntain
January 19, 2017I think between 11-13
jemma dwyer
January 19, 2017When maybe they start asking certain questions or when you think is the right time maybe around 11-12 years
Tina
January 19, 2017i think you have to start as soon as they are old enough to clean themselves
Lisa Mcalley
January 19, 2017oH I THINK IT DEPENDS, I HAVE 4 KIDS, MY 12YR OLD HAS SPECIAL NEEDS AND I HAVE TO HELP HIM WITH HYGIENE BUT MY 9 AND 6 YR OLD DONT NEED HELP.
Michelle C
January 19, 2017I think around 10 / 11 or sooner if they initiate a discussion.
MIKE SHARMAN
January 19, 2017Around 10 years old
Chirag Patel
January 19, 2017aged 10 -11
Jo McPherson
January 19, 2017around 9-10
Tammy Neal
January 19, 2017Every Child Is Different So I Don’t Like To Put A Age On Things My Little Girl Gets Sores Down There From Not Wiping Properly Asks Loads Of QUESTIONS About What Is DOWN THERE
Natalie Crossan
January 19, 2017Teenage years – early teens x
LyNsey
January 19, 2017ABout 10-11 x
Jason Tolliss
January 19, 2017As soon as they feel comfortable
Leanne Perrett
January 19, 2017i think the best time is when there old enough to understand and wash and wipe for THEMSELVES as they get older they may feel self CONSCIOUS asking questions so i think educate as soon as you can
Julie Scattergood
January 19, 2017As soon as they sTart to ask questions.
E13eleven
January 19, 2017talKing open and honestly hopefully will lead to our children not growing up with the same body hangups as most of us.
Sarah Roberts
January 19, 2017I think 10 just before they start academys and hear from the older children.
Carol C
January 19, 2017I think it depends on the maturity of the child. You can talk simply about being clean from an early age, but go into more detail as they get older and understand more.