#Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We aren’t all the same. Wouldn’t the world be a boring place if that was the case. Everyone has a viewpoint. Everyone has their own opinion.

However, I am a firm believer in “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”. I think it’s really important to spread happiness, build confidence and support each other. Now my big cheesey smile isn’t like this everyday, sometimes I’m worn out and sometimes I’m feeling sad. But I’ve learnt how to offload, unwind and bring that smile back. It’s so important to be able to hit that reset button once in a while.

So, this week, try and do one of these things:
🤍 Make someone laugh, a big belly laugh
🤍 Tell someone they look amazing
🤍 Tell someone you love you are grateful for them

See how it makes you feel. To make someone else’s day. It’s euphoric. I will never forget the moment one of the Mums from the school run told me I completely picked them up out of a dark spot - just by telling them they looked amazing today as I walked past.

Take the time to appreciate. Honestly it’s THE best hobby!

On a little diverted note; I’m appreciating this coat and boots right now. So warm and comfy. Check out the details on my blog >>> #linkinbio

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#Beauty is in the eye...

This might seem a little random after the sentiments in my last post. But bear with me... cleaning & #diy can help me with my mental health.

I’m not sure why but when I’m anxious, need to think or cross I clean. Like the deep clean stuff, it’s almost as if I get adrenaline from somewhere to give me the strength to scrub things that I wouldn’t normally. Or tackle something I wouldn’t normally.

On Thursday, whilst anxiously waiting to find out what was wrong with my grandma, I was shaving millimetres off Isla’s bedroom door. It was hard work but I didn’t want to just sit about.

Today I’ve painted the radiator and woodwork in our dining room with Frenchic. I now have a white and bright radiator and grey door. It looks so much better. Again, it’s something I can do whilst being lost in my thoughts.

Does anyone else do this?

Whilst promoting cleaning and mindfulness, check out my blog for a competition to win some goodies from @astonishcleaners #astonishingresults 
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This might seem a little...

I’m sure I don’t need to tell you what beauty shared this on her instagram before Christmas:  @carolineflack you’ve broken my heart.

She was funny. Caring. Kind. Absolutely beautiful and that smile lit up the world. Not perfect. But who is? No one.

I can’t comprehend how someone of such radiance and sparkle can end their life. But I only assume her mental health was suffering. She felt so trapped that was her only way out. A way of ending the pain that nobody could see.

Mental health is invisible; yet mental health is all consuming. Mental health is complicated; yet mental health can be helped with a simple cup of tea and chat.

Smile on the inside and on the out.

Make time for yourself.

Love yourself.

Make time for others.

Be kind.

Always. 
In a world where you can be anything, be kind  #bekind #ripcarolineflack

I’m sure I don’t need...

This is sheer appreciation. This man. My lobster 🦞. Who made me the scrummiest meal last night & dreamy Vegan brownies. Showered me with thoughtful gifts & my cute note (in my stories) I recieved in my lunch bag.

However, I was a complete emotional wreck yesterday as my Grandma was taken into hospital. She was distressed, confused and sounding a little slow. It was scary.

So the Valentine’s Day love went all to Grandma from my family; wishing & hoping they find out what’s wrong.

We’re currently waiting to find out if her BP has reduced. It was sky high. Hoping she’s better & I can bring her home today.

This photo was from last Summer when we went to @carluccios in Cambridge. I love it. Happy memories. I’m lucky to have these. Noahs a people watcher, he was distracted with the crowd. Incidentally Carluccio’s have the offer on again: kids eat for a £1... #appreciation #family #love #mummyphotoaday

This is sheer appreciation. This...

Happy Valentine’s Day 🤍

A lot to be thankful for today. Love is a big word. I love these two quotes and perfect for today.

Yes it’s about celebrating your life with your lobster 🦞(mine is rather amazing) but it’s also about family.

Family is not just an important thing. It’s everything. So true.

I don’t know where I’d be without my lobster and my family... I hung these beauts in our bathroom and I love them. They make me smile everytime I clean my teeth! Which helps 😂

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#ad Prints are from @coulsonmacleod - so beautiful

Happy Valentine’s Day 🤍 A...

I love this new story corner I’ve created for Isla, with a little help from @vertbaudetuk. It is a gorgeous space and I couldn’t wait for her to get home and see it. She was so happy!

I love the large floor cushion, I want an entire room kitted out with them so I can just chill in the middle. It would be so cosy. Or even just #half a room! 🤍

Isla loves reading and so I thought this little corner would be perfect for her. She loves it.

I started with the floor cushion, I hung the coat rack for her monkeys and dressing gown and then I hung the shelves. They are so cute. I finished it all off with the mirror. I love all the colours and shapes. It really finishes off her room.

Who else wants the futon cushion? 🙋🏼‍♀️ #mummyphotoaday #ad

I love this new story...

I love trying new makeup, especially the vegan variety! I’ve recently discovered the fab range from @ex1cosmetics - you can grab them at your local @superdrug. So easy to find when you run out.

I’ve done a bit of a makeup tutorial on the blog using the EX1 Cosmetic products. Please forgive me, my skin is awful at the moment. Since I’ve been exercising more my skin has been really spotty. The spots that hide under the skin too!

If you swipe left then you’ll see the fab products I used. Then check out my stories for the swipe up link to my blog post.

I’m no make up artist haha. I prefer natural tones, that give my face #warmth. These products are perfect for that, especially the pink blusher! I wanted to show you what the products do and how they can be used together. Perfect makeup for your Valentine’s Day date!

#mummyphotoaday #ad

I love trying new makeup,...

A place to relax. A place to hide. A place to #doodle. A place to confide.

This place is my haven. It’s my safe space to relax and unwind. It’s absurd that at 37 years old, I just can’t wait to get into bed. When hubby goes climbing on a Monday evening; I’m in bed at 8pm! Is that sad?

Because it makes me happy, the bed is super comfortable and it is the only room in the house that the kids do not destroy, it’s nice to cling on to it. Keep it that haven.

If I need 5 mins to compose myself, I’ll hide in here. The kids drive me up the wall sometimes and hiding in here can calm me down. A technique I’ve developed over the years so the kids do not see Mumma lose it!

Anyone else love their bed? Or bedroom as a whole? I’m sure I’m not the only one haha #mummyphotoaday

A place to relax. A...

Family life in the 1930’s: part one

I was on a long journey with my grandma last week, those journeys where conversations can lead from one thing to another quite quickly. On this particular journey Grandma responded to one of my comments with “we didn’t have fridges when i was younger and we coped”. It got me thinking about how life is so different now compared to 80 years ago, Grandma didn’t have a fridge let alone an iPad – how would Noah and Isla feel about that? 

From that comment I ended up asking a lot of questions and by the end of our four hours in the car Grandma said she would start writing up some memoirs from over her 80 + years. It is fascinating to read and when you compare it to how life is today, there is quite a contrast, even during the non war times. 

aacm_wmGrandma was born in Birkenhead in the early 30’s, she lived at 107 Beckwith Street. When she was a toddler, the house didn’t have electricity – they had a fire in the front room, a big old fashioned iron grate and it had a big mantlepiece which two gas lights sat above. No Tv’s or radios (Grandma didn’t experience a radio until she lived with her auntie when she was six, it ran off valves and accumulators), no tablet devices and most certainly no YouTube! 

Grandma writes about one of her earliest memories: a big reel of electrical wire had been left on the stairs and her dad was cross and told the man off. She was a toddler so in the mid 30’s was the first time the family home had electric. There was a single light in each room, in the middle of the ceiling. They didn’t have plug sockets, so no electric kettle or irons that we have so readily. They had heavy flat irons that you had to heat up on special bars on the fire. Everything must have taken quite some time to complete, especially heating up water for a bath. 

Bathtime for Isla and Noah can be made in a quick decision, a bath can be ready in minutes and be nice and hot. Something that we take for granted. Grandma describes bathtime in a very different light: 

UnknownBathtime was on a Friday night, they name it Amami night as the shampoo they used was called “Amami”. The entire family would bath on a Friday night and all hair would be washed. They kept a big galvanised bath in the yard, it was brought in the kitchen for bathtime. The kettle and pans, full of water, would be heated on the stove and used to fill up the bath.  

Grandma’s Dad would have his bath first, then her Mum, they her two older brothers and finally Grandma. When her two younger sisters came along they went after Grandma, can you imagine being 7th in line for the bath? She did say it would be topped up with warm water throughout. 

The toilet used to be at the end of the yard, newspaper squares cut out and hanging on a hook (no luxury toilet paper). Grandma said it was “flipping” cold in the winter and I can well imagine. They had gazunders (chamber pot) under the beds, so you could wee in the middle in the night without going outside and she thinks thats how they were toilet trained. I bet that was quite difficult, it’s bad enough nowadays with portable potty’s and pull ups! 

In the kitchen there would be a gas cooker with four rings and an oven. They had a dresser to keep food and crockery in. There was a big store cupboard under the stairs too. Milk was kept chilled in the summer by standing it in cold water, meat was bought from butchers and used on the same day. No 24 hour supermarket. Bread was made at home, fruit and vegetables were also bought when they were needed. 

Grandma finished off this chapter by talking about Christmas and how she would get one particular present (she vividly remembers her doll) and a sock with an orange, a shilling, some chocolate and sometimes some nuts. Its vastly different to now, shops closed for days over the Christmas period and no choice of toys like we get now. There wasn’t the money to spend on all of these toys and gadgets. Her dad earned £6 a week, which had to feed them, clothe them and pay the bills. 

Family life in the 30’s seems so much simpler, but at the same time completely horrendous. I guess that is because I can compare it to what I have now and the choices we have, Grandma certainly doesn’t see it in a negative light.  I am looking forward to Grandma’s next instalment of family life and finding out how people in the 1940’s lived and what children did back then for fun. 

If you have any questions for Grandma please do comment below, she would love to answer them and I would be interested to read. 

 

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