Yeah for the #weekend!! It seems to be the only time where tensions aren’t high and there is a calm amongst us.

We have no grand plans, obviously, but we do tend to get the dogs walked first thing (as it’s too hot later on) and then we do some gardening.

Yesterday I spent an hour pulling all the weeds and long grasses from the front garden. It looks so much neater now but I still have a lot of work to do.

I love this photo of us of all, we do not have many as we never sit still long enough 🤪 This is our family lockdown portrait though and it’s a nice memory: sunny days, rainbows and quality time together at home.

Do you have any special memories throughout this lockdown?

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What a great #friyay it’s been! We spent the morning “washing” the food shopping, then went for a nice big walk around Godmanchester meadows. It was a beautiful walk and nice as there was a breeze which cooled us down.

Yes, I did say wash the shopping. Is anyone else doing this? I basically Zoflora all of the food shopping as I unpack it. The actual shopping process takes a lot longer and now I’ve added an extra 30 mins with the clean. We just want to be sure it’s not harbouring anything. Peace of mind if nothing else.

Then this afternoon we let the kids have movie time. They’ve been getting too hot in the garden. It is super hot in the garden, it seems to be a little sun trap. Which I’m not complaining about.

Daddy then took the kiddies to the park to play croquet and I had a snooze in the sun.

All in all it’s been a beautiful day and chilled. Probably one of my favourite Fridays.

What did you get up to?

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🐝 We have really loved spending time in our garden. Exploring the nature and wildlife that shares the space with us. We found a moth caterpillar today; it was amazing to see it so up close and personal. We ended up discussing the Hungry Caterpillar story from their childhood, it was a nice nostalgic moment.

Yesterday, we spent some time counting up all the bees we could see in the garden. We found the 15 in the back and 4 in the front garden. They love this purple flower that has popped up this month. Sometimes you can see the bees with all the nectar hanging off the back of their legs. It sparked a discussion about the process of making honey. The children are fascinated.

We are lucky to live by a large park; it has woodlands and a big open space with lots of wildflowers and long grass. We often spot wildlife during our daily walk and sometimes sit and see what fly’s past. Obviously sticking to government guidelines.

For those animals that we do not live close by, or are even in the same country, we’ll be snuggling up to Sky Nature, the new channel from @skytv that is dedicated to exploring the natural world. Isla’s favourite animal is a ring tail lemur, she carries one (usually in her mouth) everywhere and so I couldn’t help but series link the Gangs of Lemur Island episodes. I am going to make a quiz about lemurs to test her afterwards! This is a favourite activity throughout lockdown, a great way of learning something new.

Sky Nature is available now, it’s channel 130 on Sky Q and it comes at no extra cost.

#ad #SkyNature #NatureAtHome

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Our half term routine (it really doesn’t feel like a half term) is dog walk, craft or sport activity and then garden fun.

The weather has been incredible over the past few days and it looks set to be the same for the weekend. Lots of paddling pool #games in the garden and adventure dog walks in our nearby parks.

How does everyone feel this evening with the new lockdown rules? I’m not sure how I feel. The kiddies grandparents can come and visit, but still can’t hug or be “normal”. I’m not sure the kiddies would be able to not do this, especially if they are sitting in the garden.

Maybe I’ll wait for the guidelines to be added to the gov.uk site before I try and decide what it will mean for us. Gather the facts... make a decision... get through it with a smile. Seems to be my lockdown mantra.

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🐾 Happy 12th birthday to my beautiful furbaby; Rocky. Despite making the neighbours mad over the past few weeks with the bird capturing (all of which flew off in the end) he is the best.

Not many of you will know that Rocky was an engagement present to me from Hubby. He came home from work one day with Rocky meowing behind his back... he had the cutest squeak. He was a little ball of fluff.

Rambo (our Jack Russell) immediately took ownership and they’ve been best buds ever since.

He’s such a handsome cat, yes I’m biased, he gives me snuggles at night and entertains us with his chasing and playful moments.

I can’t believe he’s 12. He’s lived in 5 different houses and his dog cat qualities are incredible. He seems to understand commands like the dogs... he sits for food and is quite obedient for a cat.

I’ll be sharing some cute Rocky photos in my stories today... his kitty look is adorable.

Has anyone else enjoyed spending all of this time with their pets?

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The best #view comes from the hardest climb!

Now I know this is not a mountain, it’s a collapsed tree trunk and it didn’t take hours to climb, it took 20 minutes.

The point is something can be a difficult journey mentally. This journey we are all on throughout lockdown is difficult. We are sailing along in our little boats, trying not to rock them too much.

We WILL get through it. We will see that better view. One where we can hug our family and see our friends again. Where we can go out to eat with our loved ones and splash about at a water park.

We just need to stay strong. Be patient. Be resilient.

What do you think life will look like the other side of lockdown?

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Oh #lastyear. What fun memories. What happy times. Our last holiday abroad was a year ago, Crete was beautiful. I’ve spent lots of hours during lockdown looking at our photos and remembering our family time together.

It feels like ages ago since we were there. But also it feels like last month! Does anyone else feel like this with things that happened before lockdown?

The past 8 weeks have gone so quickly, it’s quite unbelievable to think we are heading into Summer. The whole of Spring would have been spent in lockdown. But it doesn’t feel like we’ve been doing it for a season.

I can’t wait to go on holiday again. Once Crete opens its gates, I think we’ll head back. Family time with all inclusive. Just the ticket to focus on!

What are you focusing on to get you through this?

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What a lovely chilled #bankholiday we’ve had today. It started with a dog walk, before it got too hot, I love this photo of my babies.

Then we had breakfast in the garden, it was 17 degrees by 9am I think this morning.

I mowed the lawn and cut the edges with my grass scissors 🤣 and set the paddling pool up.

We’ve all spent the afternoon dipping in the pool, playing on the trampoline and even a little bit of crafts.

This evening we carried on our Marvel fest, we’re doing the chronological story order (not the created order) and we’re up to Iron Man. It was brilliant. A great action movie.

I’ve never seen any of the marvels. Until now. I’m so grateful for @disneyplusuk keeping it all in one place!

Have you seen them?

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How to keep your teenager safe during the holidays

As a parent, one of the most difficult stages of your life is when your little babies make the transition from child to teenager. I am really nervous about this stage, but I have been offered some fabulous tips.  After puberty, everything changes; the way they look, the way they talk and what they want to do with their hours is suddenly totally different. Whether they are out at a friend’s house with their phone out of battery, raiding the alcohol cabinet and replacing the Single Malt with water, or contemplating what a relationship feels like, it can seem like everything they do or say is designed to shock. Although this may be how it feels to you, essentially, they are just miniature, pseudo-adults learning about where the boundaries are by testing them. From the quiet glen of childhood, they have emerged into the vast, murky lake of the adult world without any of the tools to navigate it yet. We learn by making mistakes, and a significant amount of those mistakes are made during our teenage years. It is impossible to shield your child from the crushing pain of their first love, or from the sting of social humiliation, but you can make sure they are well informed. During the summer holidays, keeping a watchful eye on your teenager while also allowing them their space can present quite a challenge. Read on for some information about how to make sure you stay firmly but gently in charge.

Define The Rules of Engagement

At the very start of the summer holidays, before they are out of their uniform, you must  establish some rules about what is ok and what is definitely not OK. Decide what will happen if these rules are flouted, and make sure that everyone knows what the consequences will be. However you establish these boundaries, by doing so you will make sure you are acting in response to a situation in a preset manner rather than reacting in the moment. When we are upset, we say things we don’t mean, and if the situation hasn’t been accounted for it is harder to know what to do. If you say something, then you must try and stick to it, unless something specific happens and you have to reassess the situation. In which case, sitting your child or children down and explaining why the rules have changed is crucial to remaining consistent.

Get Tech Ready

The world our children live in is fundamentally different to the one we grew up in. Telephones, laptops and tablets offer them an instantaneous connection with the wider world, an incredible tool for learning but also a potential danger. Are you aware of the problems they might face and are they aware of how to keep themselves safe online? If you are concerned about any of their on-line behavior, talk to them about it in a calm and collected way. Similarly, how about having a no phones or laptops in their bedroom after ten rule? Spending hours on the phone each night is not good for sleep or their mental health.

Organize Family Activities

Aside from the family holiday, which your teenager might not even want to go on for some reason, scheduling time to do things as a family is the only way you can make sure you are all in the same place at the same time. Also, those precious hours spent together will ground them in a normal family routine.

Give Them More Responsibilities

It’s easy to think that your teenager isn’t capable of looking after themselves or their possessions. At a time when they will be engaging in more adult activities whether you like it or not, try giving them some proper responsibilities and increase how capable and confident they feel. If they do not work already, get them to find some part time work to keep them occupied over the summer months. Teenagers are notorious for losing and breaking their things, teach them about insurance but make sure that they know any premium that has to be paid will come out of their pocket. Make sure they have everything they need to protect their devices, such as a hard cover for their mobile. If everything you pick is lame, get them to have a look at cases by Custom Envy and see if they will actually use it if they can help design it. There’s no point having a solid case if they just slip their phone out of it when they’re out.

Talk Frankly and Openly About Key Issues

Whether it’s sex or drugs, talking frankly and openly with your teenagers about these things is the best way to bring them from existing in the private domain to the public one. If issues like this aren’t talked about, they might be dealing with situations way beyond their experience without parental input. We know about the dangers of taking pills at clubs and of engaging in unprotected sex, so why wouldn’t we talk about them with our children? If you are struggling don’t worry, many people do, just research ways of approaching these difficult topics. If discussing some of these issues creates conflict with your teen, you can find lots of help on how to resolve that too. For example, there’s “The Step-By-Step Guide to Resolving Conflicts With Your Pre-Teen/Teen” which is a guide that will teach you how to get through to your teen. Don’t feel like you’ve got to face these problems alone.

Know What Issues They Face

Do you live in London or another big city? Knife crime is a serious matter that affects a whole host of different kids, just because your children could be considered “middle class” don’t be ignorant and assume that they will not ever come into contact with people who carry knives. Pay special attention if your child keeps coming home out of breath, for example, and make sure they are drilled to handle a situation if one arises. Without being alarmist, you need to raise the issue with them. You might never know about everything that goes on in their life, but make sure you know about the things that really matter.

Be Approachable and Open

In any situation, no matter how difficult or hard to explain, your child needs to feel like they can come to you and talk about anything that’s bothering them. Getting to the bottom of what is bothering your son or daughter is often difficult, but if you notice a significant change in their behavior gently let them know that you are aware there is something going on, and you are there to talk if they need to. Try to refrain from snooping on their emails and text messages, although it might give you information in the short term it will only damage their trust in you in the long term.

Teenager holiday image by Shutterstock.

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