Please tell me I am not the only parent to constantly repeat this sentence? It is a whirring cycle of “play nicely” and then “destroy eachother” – repeat until bedtime. Why can’t they just play nicely all of the time? It makes you feel quite drained by the end of the week. Literally, all of our lovely moments are followed by the children fighting.
I have tried everything I can think of to stop the bickering but it hasn’t stopped. They don’t hurt each other quite as much as they did: not so much biting and pinching. But they squabble and sqwark at each other at least once an hour.
They could be playing lovely with the hot wheels one minute. Then you hear Noah shouting at Isla or one of them crying. It’s usually based around sharing of toys too. Noah has 299 hot wheels, yet that one car Isla picks up takes him over the edge. Why?
Daddy and I even tried the tactic of showing them what they are like. We shouted at each other, quite loudly, arguing over Daddy’s cars. It worked for a moment. They thought it was hilarious but agreed that we sounded silly. But it didn’t last long.
It got so much for me that I ended up discussing their behaviour with the teachers. They are not like it at all at school! It’s like they’re are different people. The teachers gave me some pointers & words to use with the children. Like “unkind”. One idea was to create a chart and offer rewards for the good behaviour. I’m trying not to reward the bad behaviour, even giving attention to the children when they’re naughty is a reward in some respects.
We did try a sticker/reward chart for a few weeks and that seemed to help. I’m not sure why we stopped it but I’ve resurrected it. Fingers crossed it helps again. I’m fed up of shouting. Fed up of crying because I think I’m a useless mother who can’t control her children. It’s hard. Hard to know what’s right and best. When they are nice to each other it is amazing, it melts your heart. We are lucky to capture some lovely moments between them on camera. Evidence that they can do it! I just need to crack the bickering…
If you have any wonderful tips please comment below. I would love to hear them.