Becoming a mother is such a special and exciting time. You’ve spent nine long months preparing for this, reading every baby book you could get your hands on, buying every tiny newborn outfit and considering each and every last morsel that passes your lips. And then, after what seems like an eternity, the day finally comes and your new addition is here. Your life will never be the same again and you couldn’t be happier!
But, as you probably already know, there are a number of things that you aren’t so thrilled about. Yes, we’re talking about how those nine long months of pregnancy took a huge toll on both your body and self-esteem. It’s no secret that pregnancy changes a woman’s body but little of us are fully prepared for how to deal with it. If you’re finding it hard to stay positive when coming face to face with the mirror, there’s no need to worry – the majority of us feel the same. But there are a number of things you can do to learn how to love your post-baby body.
Reclaim your body
Being able to carry a baby is one of life’s true miracles but this doesn’t mean that you are no longer a sexual being. Sure, pregnancy may change how some areas of your body look or feel but this does not mean that you have changed with it. Breast augmentation is sometimes a bit of a taboo subject to some new mothers because many feel selfish for wanting to feel happy, sexy and confident post-baby. It’s so important to remember that although you have become a mother, you are still the same sexual being that you once were. Your breasts are often a key area that changes drastically during and after pregnancy. Firstly they may be fuller, firmer and more voluptuous (much to the delight of your partner), but it can difficult when your newly acquired assets quickly deplete during weaning. Breast augmentation or any other type of cosmetic procedure is a great way of reclaiming your body as your own and giving yourself that body confidence you deserve.
Cut yourself some slack
Although you will have heard this a thousand times already, we still feel it’s worth saying: It took nine whole months for you to gain all of your baby weight, so do not beat yourself up if you cannot shift it all immediately. Women tend to give themselves a really hard time, even before having a child. We are constantly comparing our bodies to those we see on TV or in magazines and the truth is they are totally unrealistic. Try not to be too hard on yourself and have a little patience. Ignore that woman who somehow looks fantastic only weeks after her baby arrived. That’s great for her but cases like this are few and far between. Comparing yourself to others can give you unrealistic ideals and also have a really negative impact on your individual progress or your self-esteem.
Remind yourself why your body has changed
If you’re having a bad day and really can’t bear to look at yourself in the mirror, just one look at what your body created is the perfect way of feeling good about yourself. You carried that beautiful baby for nine months, yes it may have changed your body in a number of ways and left it feeling tired and a little different, but you did it. Give yourself a pat on the back – what you did is truly amazing and you should be so proud of yourself.
In the end, all that really matters is how you feel. Letting your body-confidence issues rule your life is not good for you or your baby. Being a happy, confident role model to your child is so much more important than worrying about your imperfections.
Black and white image with two boys by: http://www.w24.co.za/Wellness/Mind/Do-you-love-your-body-after-giving-birth-20130718